Wayward Haze
cw: emotional manipulation SOUTHWEST JUST OUTED ME TO MY MOTHER
Tallorance
NO
ƒąìղէ օƒ հҽąɾէʂ
What the FUCK
Sage⁉
oh my GOD.
miles you ass
JESUS
𝔪𝔢𝔪𝔢𝔫𝔱𝔬💀𝔪𝔬𝔯𝔞𝔶
NOOOOO
ᴼᴴ ᶠᴼᴿ 🦊 ˢᴬᴷᴱ
OH NO
ᴼᴴ ᶠᴼᴿ 🦊 ˢᴬᴷᴱ
HOW
ᴼᴴ ᶠᴼᴿ 🦊 ˢᴬᴷᴱ
WHY
ᴼᴴ ᶠᴼᴿ 🦊 ˢᴬᴷᴱ
WTF
Hᴀʀᴋᴏɴɴᴇɴ
oh my god no
shinotenshi22
Oh my god what?!?!?!!
shinotenshi22
/hugs you
Wayward Haze
Yeah. We had to change our names on our boarding passes to fly last week bc Mom bought our tickets .... but we thought we made it without incident
Wayward Haze
Then mom texted me saying "Morning, I just received an email from Southwest Airlines stating that Laurel Heywood Marie & Hazel Heywood Nicholas had vouchers. I am confused."
Wayward Haze
So um
Wayward Haze
I don't even know why we have vouchers since our flight was only delayed
Meow Knight
Oh shit
Wayward Haze
But now I have to figure out how to do damage control because this is NOT how I wanted to have this conversation.
Wayward Haze
She's driving my aunt to the airport right now so we have some time but
Wayward Haze
/edits in CWs for emotional manipulation since we're here
Wayward Haze
She makes anything she doesn't like about her. I thought you knew you could trust me. I don't understand. How did this happen. Why are you doing this to me. You're MY daughter etc
Max
Oh fuck
Wayward Haze
I am fully expecting "I just lost my husband and now I've lost my daughter" to drop
ᴼᴴ ᶠᴼᴿ 🦊 ˢᴬᴷᴱ
You can still keep the gender thing under wetsuits!
Wayward Haze
No I can't. Middle name.
ᴼᴴ ᶠᴼᴿ 🦊 ˢᴬᴷᴱ
WRAOS
ᴼᴴ ᶠᴼᴿ 🦊 ˢᴬᴷᴱ
I MEAN. It's a cool name
Wayward Haze
I asked her what they would have named me if I was a boy. That's where the Nicholas came from
Wayward Haze
Also she has this really really really weirdly strong thing about names
PrincessBatty
Would she buy into it being for your work in writing?
Wayward Haze
Like "those are the names WE GAVE YOU you can't just change them"
PrincessBatty
That there is a skew toward male writers and this eases that burden for you professionally?
Wayward Haze
PrincessBatty : I'm not going to lie to her.
Wayward Haze
Besides, I told her when she flipped about Heywood that I was keeping my birth name for my writing
PrincessBatty
Nor should you have to, I wasn't sure if that was an option for you.
space witch
Ughhh
BRUNO PLS
ugh, bad timing, airline.
Wayward Haze
Not only that but when we changed our names at the airport we TOLD THEM that we didn't want the person who bought the tickets to know
BRUNO PLS
I hate that whole 'we gave you this name' bullshit. it's nothing more than ego.
Wayward Haze
Yeah, it is, and she doesn't see that
BRUNO PLS
/offers hugs
I'm so sorry you have to go through that
Wayward Haze
Lore and I already pregamed the talk and I told her how she gets with things like this, stuff I predict will happen. Good old "cptsd survivors look for patterns and predict as a survival reflex"
Wayward Haze
When I told her we were changing our last names that was bad enough. She hung up on me after I tried to explain that names weren't what make us family
ᴼᴴ ᶠᴼᴿ 🦊 ˢᴬᴷᴱ
This is going to be a very tough conversation to have... But remember we're here for you. We love you and your mom loves you. She's going to need time to adjust, if she's willing to. She has memories of you that you don't have of yourself - being told she's having a girl, holding you for the first time, changing diapers.
ᴼᴴ ᶠᴼᴿ 🦊 ˢᴬᴷᴱ
Because she can't rewrite those memories, it's going to be harder for her to accept a big change than it is for friends who got to know you later. Hopefully, you both can go forward from this point understanding each other. <3
Meow Knight
I wish there was something I could do to help, because this sounds like a horrible situation to be in. I'll just have to send all the good vibes your way.
ᴼᴴ ᶠᴼᴿ 🦊 ˢᴬᴷᴱ
Yeah... it's awful having control over when and how taken away by that email.
Bippy
Oh gawd. Of all the bs to not want to deal with on top of everything.
𝔪𝔢𝔪𝔢𝔫𝔱𝔬💀𝔪𝔬𝔯𝔞𝔶
See your mistake was expecting the airline to remember your request. Cause there was no way in hell they would. But ughhhhh. Regardless, having that choice of when to talk about such important things taken away is truly some bullshit
6LilacMimeLions
oh god
i'm so sorry you're going through this over a freakin' automated email, of all things
Tallorance
just remember you are loved and lots of people care for you and I will throw hands with anyone's mom for them if I have to
Wayward Haze
Thank you, everyone.
Wayward Haze
I'm gonna go get an organizer for my closet and maybe a cheeseburger while she's gone
Meow Knight
Yes yes, go do fun things and treat yourself! We love you!
Wayward Haze
... cinnamon bun Snickers bars exist now
Wayward Haze
I bought two of them
ᴼᴴ ᶠᴼᴿ 🦊 ˢᴬᴷᴱ
THROW ONE TO ME
ᴼᴴ ᶠᴼᴿ 🦊 ˢᴬᴷᴱ
I NEED
Meow Knight
YO THAT SOUNDS DELICIOUS
skipthedemon
hugs
𝓢𝓮𝓷𝓭🎄𝓛𝔀𝔂𝓭𝓼
AIRLINE WTF
𝓢𝓮𝓷𝓭🎄𝓛𝔀𝔂𝓭𝓼
I'm so sorry
Wayward Haze
I AM IN SHOCK
Wayward Haze
All Mom said was she wants me to be happy and healthy and safe.... and she's glad Dad didn't have to know.
Wayward Haze
She was a mess, we both cried a lot, but she said "if this is what makes you happy and healthy then I want to help you any way I can"
𝓢𝓮𝓷𝓭🎄𝓛𝔀𝔂𝓭𝓼
Okay. I'm glad she took it pretty well. But that last bit of info didn't need to be added.
skipthedemon
I'm glad for you.
Wayward Haze
I have never felt this fucking... okay. And free.
𝓢𝓮𝓷𝓭🎄𝓛𝔀𝔂𝓭𝓼
I'm so glad for you, honestly.
Wayward Haze
𝓢𝓮𝓷𝓭🎄𝓛𝔀𝔂𝓭𝓼 : No, and she also didn't have to say that Dad named me
Wayward Haze
But all things considered I'm stunned
Just Lore
All things considered it went the best way it possibly could.
miles you ass
<33333
ƒąìղէ օƒ հҽąɾէʂ
That seems like a decent outcome, so I'm happy for you!
S̸C̴R̴A̸T̵C̴H̵
oh man that's - what a way to get there but I'm glad it panned out pretty well for you in the end
Meow Knight
Oh... I'm so glad she's at least trying to be accepting and not actively going against it.
Wayward Haze
Same. Wow I got hit by an emotional mack truck today
6LilacMimeLions
holy crap
Max
Oh wow... I’m so glad you weren’t meant with outright resistance. I hope she continues to try being accepting, maybe even seeking out resources from accepting parent groups. But one step at a time, of course. Honestly I’m just getting really emotional thinking about that this isn’t a secret from her anymore
Max
Living with that is living on the defensive, which sucks. I love that you’re feeling free
PrincessBatty
hug I am so glad she understood how important this is to you and who you are. The guilt thing might be just in her and it might never go away but to be able to say what she did was amazing. You deserve to live fully as who you are and I hope this opens that up more fully for you.
𝔪𝔢𝔪𝔢𝔫𝔱𝔬💀𝔪𝔬𝔯𝔞𝔶
phew.... that went better than expected!!
ᴼᴴ ᶠᴼᴿ 🦊 ˢᴬᴷᴱ
I'm so glad it went well!!
BRUNO PLS
Oh! I'm glad that went so well! <3
Wayward Haze
toonish: You're gonna make me cry all over again. Ugh! I love you, bud.
book of thot
god I'm so glad for you that it wasn't worse
book of thot
like, it wasn't perfect, sure, but any support at all where you were expecting to have to field manipulation and opposition? whew
Max
Love you too, man!
shinotenshi22
Wayward Haze
spartabitch: serious whew
Wayward Haze
And now that I'm out I have redone my closet. No. Really.
Wayward Haze
I had sorta kinda done it a couple months ago but now it's really done the way I wanted
Wayward Haze
https://images.plurk.com/6BEHjqikah2io3JbiW6klZ.jpg
book of thot
ARE THOSE T-SHIRTS IN A SHOE RACK
book of thot
THAT'S GENIUS
Wayward Haze
THANK YOU I wanted to be able to see what I was grabbing quick in the morning!
Wayward Haze
(you can tell it is laundry day, most of my faves are missing)
ᴼᴴ ᶠᴼᴿ 🦊 ˢᴬᴷᴱ
So tidy!
ᴼᴴ ᶠᴼᴿ 🦊 ˢᴬᴷᴱ
I meant to ask, I know they're women's suits but would you like to try a couple on before I donate them? I can hang onto them until whenever you're able to visit.
ᴼᴴ ᶠᴼᴿ 🦊 ˢᴬᴷᴱ
They need pressed, but they're otherwise fine, I think. Sleeves are short. I have fat long arms. XD
Wayward Haze
I mean ... I will never say no to suits
ᴼᴴ ᶠᴼᴿ 🦊 ˢᴬᴷᴱ
I'll hope into them, then! We'll see if you like. :>
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