My aunt is on hospice care and I don’t think my cousin understands how hospice works. I went to see her today and the poor dear is on her last legs. Her breathing is so labored. The nurse has suggested upping her morphine but he is resisting it. He says hospice is just helping killing people

I’m hoping when his daughter comes in to visit tonight she can help him. I think he is in denial that it’s his mom’s time to go. She’s 95 and been hanging on by a thread for a few months but really took a turn this week.

It's so hard. Intellectually I understand and appreciate hospice but when we were looking at the paperwork for mom it said they wouldn't give her water or ice and my mom was perpetually thirsty her whole life and we couldn't do it. Even when you know it's time, it's so hard to say yes do this. At least for us it was.

NewYearSameMe : yeah It was hard with my dad and I get where he is coming from but just listening to him ramble off about the killing and then she might get addicted to the morphine. Its a scary time and him and his sister have been butting heads on the matter which just makes it harder i think on him as he is the primary care giver.

I'm going over again tomorrow to see his daughter and her 2 littles and to check in but it is not easy

Hospice Is just to help out at the end of life. Sounds like your cousin isn't smart enough to figure that out.

Lilly : it's not easy at all. A few days before my mom died she wanted these pastries and I was like are you sure you can have that with your diabetes and my sister in law looked at me like I was nuts. She was right I was nuts. Mom got the pastry.

Like I said - intellectually I think hospice is great but man when I was supposed to grow up and approve I lost my mind. It was better the second time around we dad we did when it was time.

NewYearSameMe : Swamp Daddy : it was one of the hardest times of my life with my dad to admit to letting him go even thought I knew it was the right thing almost made me glad my mom went with out warning in her sleep. I don't envy the path my cousin is traveling it is hard to let go when its time

He is in denial. My husband did this with his dad last year. The morphine relaxes them, and they sleep. Hospice ( for the most part) is end of life care. The body fight so hard to keep doing what it’s done the past 93 years. It’s hard, I know, but time will take its place.

I hope he finds his peace and I'm so sorry about your aunt. Hugs friend

NewYearSameMe : thank you I do too

Laila : he is for sure and I guess the hospice nurse tried to call him on it when she talked to his sister but he isn’t having it at all. I feel for them both it’s so hard.

well my aunt is at peace i hope, she passed away earlier today.

Lilly : my deep sympathy to you and your family - I hope the son finds the peace he needs too

NewYearSameMe : thank you