It has been like impossible for me to make friends irl since high school. I still hang out with my high school friends on occasion. I’ve made a lot of friends online that I’m super thankful for, idk what I would’ve done without them
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: even in highschool my online friends were like some of the closest people to me but and like all i have left is one highschool friend irl and we’re kinda just clashing all the time
But I really want irl friends, and the reason I don’t have them certainly isn’t for lack of trying. Just seems to be so difficult to find ppl at college who I can vibe with, like idc about grades or classes I’m just trying to have a good time and not stress too much
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i just started a new fullfime job cuz im not in school rn (i need to go back desperately) but this job is like a 9-5 office job so its filled with like 40 year olds :/ i got one guy whos like 5 years older than me but he is not my vibe one bit
It seems like coworkers as friends can be really hit or miss. For many of my jobs I didn’t want to be more than coworkers with most of the people, most of them were older. My sister lucked out and worked at “the queer Subway” near campus and has lots of stories to tell
if it makes u feel any better shmoozie ive found this is super duper common for ppl our age and many many ppl share the same sentiment so u r not alone!!!
i didn't even try to make friends at uni... it's unfair to say for me but most ppl were WEIRD. Or they already had a circle with a vibe that just was not attractive
fun fact! adult life is exceedingly lonely! trying to meet people especially in our culture of extremely online or alt or queer people IRL is Very Very hard to do without being deliberate about it
the ways around this are if you don't have like minded people at your job, then you kinda need to start looking into clubs, volunteering, or going to events/shows/conventions
I'm still trying to learn to get around this also where you live affects the type of people near you and things happening or you're able to do so like if you're in the suburbs you are fucked and need to get closer to town or find the books and crannies
that's just how it is babey! once you realize that and know you have to roll up your sleeves and get your hands dirty and Extert Effort into trying to make yourself visible and present to socialize it feels a (little) less hopeless
trying to meet people especially in our culture of extremely online or alt or queer people IRL is Very Very hard to do without being deliberate about it
if you don't have like minded people at your job, then you kinda need to start looking into clubs, volunteering, or going to events/shows/conventions
if you're in the suburbs you are fucked and need to get closer to town or find the books and crannies