“ The truth teller could probably better termed the truth seer. Because lots of truth tellers don’t or can’t say anything, but you can sort of see it in their faces that they get it.
The truth teller is the child who at a relatively early age in a narcissistic family system gets it and sees it.
“ At some nascent level they are the child who sees that what is happening around them is simply not cool.
They see it as manipulative even though they don’t know the word. It’s as though they can see the narcissistic parent’s inadequacy and insecurity, and they know that the gaslighting is gaslighting, and they know that the manipulation is manipulation.
“ And in this way it’s interesting even at a relatively young age, the truth-teller child already is sort of ahead of the curve, they’re doing the deep technique you know the don’t engage and all of that without knowing it is a technique,
“ Not all of the time, I mean obviously just like any child, they want to be heard and seen, but pretty early in the game, they recognize that THAT is not likely to happen with these parents.
There is something in the truth-teller child’s eyes or face that almost lets the narcissistic parents know, that the truth-teller child gets it.
It can wear you down, leave you cynical, but think of the bright side, you have the luxury of seeing it early and hopefully steering clear of these patterns early.
The truth tellers are often straight shooters. They see it, they get it. In fact, people may find the truth tellers in adulthood to be sort of really to the point and kind of don’t mess around-ish.
“ Truth teller do not suffer fools. They can be really good at boundaries, truth tellers tend to have good instincts, they honor those instincts, they can see an unhealthy situation, and step back and not engage.
The majority of adults don’t get here, the truth tellers got here in childhood.
“ Even the other family role types are at risk to fall into enabling roles, especially with the parents and especially the fixers and the helper child, they’ll say things like Mom didn’t mean it or They’re just having a hard day or Stop being so difficult or they’re going to get mad,
“ so the truth teller may be carrying a legacy of left to feel like they’re the ones with the problem.
Depends on the other dynamics in the system and The truth teller child’s temperament, that can lead to self-doubt or even socialize social isolation in adulthood, because it can feel like people cannot be trusted.
Listen, the truth teller is somebody who often though can also be viewed as buzz kill, as a critic, as a person who’s overly harsh, some people may even label the truth teller as judgemental or full of themselves, all of that obviously goes back to enabling.
And the truth teller’s existence and sort of “knowing” means that they’ll often call out those warm and fuzzies and say, you can all be warm and fuzzy, that situation is unhealthy.
Because of this, the truth tellers are often the ones that people may reject initially, down the line they may see their wisdom.
“ But honestly, how many times can the truth teller live in the world of being perpetually rejected because they detect the painful truths that other people don’t want to see?
“ Once you can honestly see it, and not maintain false hope of change or that you will be the exception, then you can actually co-exist with the narcissist without getting too burned.
But, you will more often than you like get exhausted and at times even feel disgusted.
“ Somehow the truth teller has this is ability to see these patterns clearly from the very beginning, these are often introspective smart empathic children who grow into empathic smart introspective adults.
“ The truth teller could probably better termed the truth seer.
Because lots of truth tellers don’t or can’t say anything, but you can sort of see it in their faces that they get it.
The truth teller is the child who at a relatively early age in a narcissistic family system gets it and sees it.
They see it as manipulative even though they don’t know the word.
It’s as though they can see the narcissistic parent’s inadequacy and insecurity, and they know that the gaslighting is gaslighting, and they know that the manipulation is manipulation.
There is something in the truth-teller child’s eyes or face that almost lets the narcissistic parents know, that the truth-teller child gets it.
The parent doesn’t like this feeling of sort of being seen for what they are.
The truth teller / truth seer child has to take on some very uncomfortable roles as they go trough childhood.
But another down side of being a truth teller is that you do see it.
And that almost mean that you’re like that kid in the movie who can see dead people.
Not a good feeling.
As they go into adulthood, truth tellers, they can sort of see the narcissistic people before anyone else can.
It can wear you down, leave you cynical, but think of the bright side, you have the luxury of seeing it early and hopefully steering clear of these patterns early.
The truth tellers are often straight shooters. They see it, they get it.
In fact, people may find the truth tellers in adulthood to be sort of really to the point and kind of don’t mess around-ish.
They can be really good at boundaries, truth tellers tend to have good instincts, they honor those instincts, they can see an unhealthy situation, and step back and not engage.
The majority of adults don’t get here, the truth tellers got here in childhood.
Even the wisest child doesn’t do great with everyone telling them they’re wrong or simply just being ignored by their family.
Depends on the other dynamics in the system and The truth teller child’s temperament, that can lead to self-doubt or even socialize social isolation in adulthood, because it can feel like people cannot be trusted.
Listen, the truth teller is somebody who often though can also be viewed as buzz kill, as a critic, as a person who’s overly harsh, some people may even label the truth teller as judgemental or full of themselves, all of that obviously goes back to enabling.
And the truth teller’s existence and sort of “knowing” means that they’ll often call out those warm and fuzzies and say, you can all be warm and fuzzy, that situation is unhealthy.
Because of this, the truth tellers are often the ones that people may reject initially, down the line they may see their wisdom.
It’s interesting, the truth tellers can sort of over time be “kryptonite” to the narcissistic person’s powers, they live a sort of fundamental truth.
You can survive, I really do believe, not only survive but thrive in narcissistic world if you are willing to see these patterns clearly.
But, you will more often than you like get exhausted and at times even feel disgusted.