Stede's sex life consists of three steps 1. Kiss (optional) + awkward foreplay (extremely optional) 2. making an excuse to leave the room to desperately get himself in the mood 3. the basic mecahnics of the action with his eyes closed and holding his breath and waiting for it to be over
...he's also a little afraid there might be a rugpull of "ok, so that was completely platonic" and just...doesn't want to ask more of this kiss until he knows where the line is drawn here, ok ok
1. Kiss (optional) + awkward foreplay (extremely optional)
2. making an excuse to leave the room to desperately get himself in the mood
3. the basic mecahnics of the action with his eyes closed and holding his breath and waiting for it to be over