so a friend of my grandmother's plans on moving out of her house, and my grandmother convinced me to take a look at it some weeks ago, which I agreed to.
But it's one of those cheap rectangle houses you find dime a dozen in rural desert shitscapes, and right away I could tell there was an issue just by the fact that I looked in her bedroom and the light switch panel was just. straight up Gone. and I could see into the wall and see wires.
my grandmother's boyfriend also confirmed its many other issues like no proper sealing on windows, and how the building itself was held up at one end by, uh. a stack of bricks.
anyway, she then gets to talking about instead some sort of, like, cabin or another that is due to go up as a part of some auction............. six months from now
I have not seen this at all, but I agree to check it out when, like. it becomes more relevant. and I can presumably see it a little closer to bidding time
and in my head, i'm like......... why did you get this when you don't even have a truck anymore, also you literally just sold your RV like a year or two ago
except then she keeps going, talking about how it'd be good for the cats because it has high spaces, and there's nothing really in the cabin and all since it's so small-
> James: wait, are you.... are you talking about that cabin going up for auction? that i'm not guaranteed to win? > Grandmother: No? I'm talking about the old small cabin that I got from Boyfriend, and both of them can be moved into the yard for a short while > James: > James: you literally never told me about any of this
and she just keeps going, talking about how the little high bed space would be good for the cats, and oh but I'm going to have to put it on my insurance, duh duh duh duh, whatever
but i am eternally left to play diplomat with my grandmother, so instead i just try to do a "ha ha" sort of thing where I'm like, "well, HA HA, this is literally the first time i've heard of ANY OF THIS and you've kind of already bought it!!!"
just trying to put into perspective of how fucking weird this is? to just buy this trailer that my truck is not equipped to carry and that she assumes I will pay for ALONG with paying for the insurance? before talking to me about it at ALL?
honestly I think at this point you need to just put your foot down? like, it's nice that she's done this, but also: she did it without talking to you about any of this, so you have the RIGHT to be upset
I can tell that the second I do this it's going to be a shitshow, because the second I even politely started going "ha ha what the fuck", she got defensive
and this isn't the first time my family has just sprung surprise "hey you're paying!" bullshit on me either - when my grandfather died, one day my grandmother and aunt just poked their heads into my room and went
I'm debating on talking to her boyfriend to see if I can get him vaguely in the same room and side when this happens, because it's clear she isn't gonna listen to me for fuck or all
god. she kept going on so much about how there wouldn't be any furniture or high spaces for the cats in this cabin (also not talked to me about) and her solution is to buy a 9k fucking trailer. separate from the actual house i'd presumably be living in.
if it does, i am tempted to help her sell it but at a higher price than she got it (she haggled down from 11k to 9k, so i'm thinking that much at least) and then take the extra for myself, because Fuck Her
Which she shouldn't. And like... if this is a pattern, of her either buying stuff in your name or pressuring you to buy things for her? I wonder if there might be steps you can take to keep that from happening. Because I can see this getting the family in general and you specifically in financial or legal trouble at some point.
went in to look at the insides, which has a color scheme that I actually like (see: existing) and some nice drawer and closet space, but there is a washer taking up space where the One shower is, and also, most importantly:
So she finally brought up "So what do you think" and I still had to be like "I mean, it's nice, but I do not want it, you kind of just got it and dropped it on me without talking to me"
she started going on about how she JUST WANTED TO HELP, acting like "helping" is when you drop 9k on a whole ass camper without talking to someone and just dropping it on their lap
I just can't get over how she Does Not understand why it is kind of fucked up to drop 9k on something like this and then just shove it at me, all without talking to me in the slightest
(Nods) And that might get worse with time. Might not be a bad idea to talk to a lawyer about either you or someone else in the family overseeing her finances.
he very much wants her to move over to where he and his wife and my half siblings on that end all are, so he can keep an eye on her, but she's refused it before
god, it still annoys me that, like.... if i'd just been given the option of choice, I would probably have liked, like... at least this thing's design? I like color! And these are cute colors! And the bedroom isn't that bad!
I probably still wouldn't have bought it, because I'd have various concerns - I've never possessed a trailer, I'm worried I wouldn't be able to maintain it properly, still don't have a truck capable of fucking moving it, the bathroom Very Clearly isn't meant for having both a washer and a functioning shower.....
> Grandmother: No? I'm talking about the old small cabin that I got from Boyfriend, and both of them can be moved into the yard for a short while
> James:
> James: you literally never told me about any of this