he could have turned out fairly subbish but luck and availability had it that he mostly found people who liked to be told exactly how to give it and liked how he got real rowdy and grabby once he hit that threshold of "hurt enough"
(side note unless he makes it ICly i'm gonna say jamie did not make quota in his first month because it takes some goddamn time to get him comfortable with being like "we can only fuck if you'll do a sadism")