Mad Larkin
[relationships] today was supposed to be the day my boyfriend drove over and we put most of my stuff into his car and drove it to his mom's house to store
Mad Larkin
but I've contacted him every way I can and he's not answering
Mad Larkin
I'm getting worried that something major happened, since he's been good about staying on things and communicating lately
Mad Larkin
I don't want to contact his mom, but I may have to, because I have no idea what's happening and it's driving me up the wall
Mad Larkin
I just hate this thing where something affects me and I don't know what's going on
Mad Larkin
is he driving out to Queens?
Mad Larkin
is he asleep?
Mad Larkin
is he dead in a fucking ditch?
Mad Larkin
I don't know! I can't find out! because I can't fucking talk to him!
Mad Larkin
all I know is, we made a plan, I thought I'd be done with one round of bringing shit to his car by now, but no
Mad Larkin
I'm in the fucking dark
Mad Larkin
because he either had something bad happen or doesn't give enough of a shit to make this happen in a timely fashion
Mad Larkin
if I end up packing shit in his car in the fucking dark, I will be so pissed
undrwo
oh god, that sounds like a terrible schrodinger's cat of fear/anger
undrwo
I'm sorry!
Mad Larkin
<3 thanks
Mad Larkin
fuck it, I'm texting his mom
Mad Larkin
jesus fucking christ
Mad Larkin
he was sleeping and now he's pissed at me because "people keep waking him up" and he "hasn't gotten any sleep"
Mad Larkin
which I knew nothing of
Mad Larkin
but sure, he was planning on coming and getting my stuff "later" (which I knew nothing of), so it'd be fine!
Mad Larkin
I'm the fucking asshole for assuming that shit might happen in a decent schedule
Mad Larkin
you know what? I wouldn't be this mad if he'd even just texted me "I'm taking a nap, I'll pick up your stuff later in the day"
Mad Larkin
I'd be not happy, but at least I'd have information
pharadyne
yeah, leaving you in the dark is uncool
Mad Larkin
it is
Mad Larkin
and I guess the sticking point for me is also that I'm the one who's doing most of the work
Mad Larkin
he'll be sticking by his car and I'll be hauling stuff down (at least partly with a dolly, I think, but still, it'll be hard work)
Mad Larkin
I don't want to do this later in the day! but he'll be getting here at 3 at the earliest
Mad Larkin
and I thought he'd fucking know enough to realize that, but fuck me for having expectations
Mad Larkin
I really don't want to do this when we're mad at each other! I hate being mad like this! I just... I thought it would go more or less smoothly
Un(t)sundered
tbh, it sounds like he could stand to be better at communicating?
Mad Larkin
he can, yeah. he tries and he's been better lately, but sometimes he just, IDK, forgets or prioritizes sleep over everything else or something
Mad Larkin
in a move that no one (except me, apparently) could have seen coming, it is quarter of four and he still hasn't shown up
Mad Larkin
but it's all fine, right? we don't need to schedule this at all or make sure he gets over here before noon or anything
sexy chaos cult
yeah, it's incredibly inconsiderate of him and I hope when he wakes up from his cranky nap he apologizes profusely to you
Mad Larkin
he's awake at the moment (I assume) and driving here (I also assume) but this is just really really not how I wanted today to go
Mad Larkin
we could be done with the second trip and driving to Mastic by now, but no
sexy chaos cult
totally feel your frustration
sexy chaos cult
part of being an adult is not blowing off scheduled engagements with people and deciding to change plans without even notifying them, right?
sexy chaos cult
like you're not a mind reader, how were you supposed to know?
Mad Larkin
it is
Mad Larkin
and, yeah, not psychic
Mad Larkin
he's been sick and hasn't been sleeping well, which apparently translates into not telling me shit and just sleeping all the time
Mad Larkin
but when I end up texting his mom to see if he's alive, since I haven't heard shit from him, then he gets pissed and I'm the bad one
sexy chaos cult
he really shouldn't be surprised-pikachu facing if you're trying to find out what's going on when he hasn't showed up at the agreed time and he's been sick
Mad Larkin
no, he shouldn't be
Mad Larkin
admittedly, we didn't establish a time beyond "one trip in the morning, one in the afternoon" but I figured he'd be on top of that. he's been pretty on top of most things while we've been planning this move
Mad Larkin
though part of my annoyance stems from the fact that he tends to do this "oh, it'll be fine it won't take that long" in the face of my protests and then get pissed when I get pissed when things happen late
Mad Larkin
we went over this months ago and I though he changed, but apparently backsliding happens
Mad Larkin
I felt bad for having his mom wake him up, but nope, not anymore
Mad Larkin
he hasn't shown up yet and he's not answering again
Mad Larkin
I don't get why he gets to be pissy I woke him up but I don't get information. This shouldn't have to be this hard. I love him, I do, but this is one of his flaws and it appeared at the exact wrong time
sexy chaos cult
Mad Larkin
well, now he saw my latest message, lets see how it goes
Mad Larkin
yep, he's pissed I asked him where he was even though it's been an hour and a half after he said he'd be here
Mad Larkin
"don't worry about it"
Mad Larkin
too late
pharadyne
it's super disrespectful of your time, too. like, you're left just waiting for him all day without knowing when he will show.
pharadyne
if i were more petty (and if things were less covid-y) i'd suggest you go out for a long afternoon walk/movie/coffee/whatever and if he shows up and you're not there, that's on him for not showing up when he said he would and not telling you the change of plans
Un(t)sundered
Yeah, plus "don't worry about it" is not helpful at best and suspicious at worst
Mad Larkin
pharadyne
I'd be tempted, but I do want to get at least some of this stuff shipped out to Mastic
Mad Larkin
Un(t)sundered
I don't think it's anything more suspicious than his terrible ability to tell how much time has passed, but it is really annoying
Un(t)sundered
If he has trouble telling time, there are ways to help with that...
Mad Larkin
yeah, that's a conversation I think we're going to have to have
Mad Larkin
but his idea of "soon" can be absolutely terrible
Mad Larkin
we did get it all into his car in one trip, when he showed up after 5
Mad Larkin
he did also admit that he should communicate more, which is good
Mad Larkin
on the other hand, it's fairly obvious that he hasn't done much packing of his own room, in the weeks he's had to do it, so I'm back to "he has terrible time management"
Lady Stardust
does he maybe have ADHD?
Lady Stardust
because this sounds like a thing I might have done
Lady Stardust
not the part where he's pissed at you for not reading minds, just the part where time and plans aren't real
Mad Larkin
if he does, it's not diagnosed. that may be something to mention, once we're moved in
Mad Larkin
he just tends to have this attitude, if he's got other stuff going on, that "it'll get done, so don't worry about when it happens"
Lady Stardust
It feels very familiar to me