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@anonymous
Sat, Apr 3, 2021 11:00 AM
what do u do when ur guy keeps making u feel bad?
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Sat, Apr 3, 2021 11:01 AM
it's getting harder and harder to take it and to pretend i'm okay and that everything is just fine
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Sat, Apr 3, 2021 11:02 AM
the pretending part is the worst
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Sat, Apr 3, 2021 11:03 AM
i keep on trying to act and think like i'm okay. but i don't feel okay. i fucking don't feel okay.
bat9767
Sat, Apr 3, 2021 11:04 AM
never been in that situation, but is "Hi my guy, you're making me feel bad. Why is that?" not an option?
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Sat, Apr 3, 2021 11:04 AM
and i'm hurting so bad. but he can't even see that or refuses to idk which is worse
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Sat, Apr 3, 2021 11:05 AM
we always fight about his issues about me but i can't even talk about mine with him properly
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Sat, Apr 3, 2021 11:06 AM
i know i'm not exactly easy to handle or to be encouraged to talk about my feelings..
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Sat, Apr 3, 2021 11:07 AM
but it's just that.. i don't feel safe with him..
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Sat, Apr 3, 2021 11:10 AM
my thoughts, my words, my feelings, my pain.. i just.. i don't think i can trust him with them anymore.. :c
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Sat, Apr 3, 2021 11:12 AM
either he'll judge me, or it'll rise up to another issue he has on me, and so we'll talk about his issue and how to fix it, and by the time we finish, he'll feel a bit okay at least 'cause i try to reassure him a lot.. but i'm already exhausted emotionally to even bring up my issues
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Sat, Apr 3, 2021 11:13 AM
so since i'm already exhausted, i just try not to make a big deal out of my issues
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Sat, Apr 3, 2021 11:14 AM
as long as he's okay, we're okay
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Sat, Apr 3, 2021 11:14 AM
that's what i keep on telling myself
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Sat, Apr 3, 2021 11:14 AM
but... why do i feel this way?
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Sat, Apr 3, 2021 11:14 AM
why am i in pain?
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Sat, Apr 3, 2021 11:20 AM
bat9767: believe me, that'll just go back to his issues about me... and then it'll be my fault again... in the end, i just have to accept that i feel bad, yes, but it's my fault i'm feeling bad and i'm hurting :c
pigeon8401
Sat, Apr 3, 2021 11:37 AM
ಠ_ಠ: leave. I know its not easy. Been there. Just leave and never look back. You deserve so much better.
fly5453
Sat, Apr 3, 2021 11:46 AM
peanut9111
Sat, Apr 3, 2021 11:46 AM
You deserve better. If he can't even show you the bare minimum of respect of being a partner, it's gonna feel worse in the long run.
peanut9111
Sat, Apr 3, 2021 11:47 AM
If you can't talk it out, and both parties aren't willing to compromise, then maybe it's better if you set apart.
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Sat, Apr 3, 2021 11:51 AM
pigeon8401: i love him :c
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Sat, Apr 3, 2021 11:57 AM
peanut9111: You think it's gonna feel worse? I was honestly hoping he'll realize things soon enough and make it up to me. But lately... I don't feel like we're partners you know? I just feel like I'm there to make him feel better and reassure him on a lot of things. I don't feel like my needs are getting fulfilled anymore...
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Sat, Apr 3, 2021 12:02 PM
But in the other hand, it didn't matter much to me because i love him :c
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Sat, Apr 3, 2021 12:03 PM
I love him too much that I don't even wanna fight for myself or my issues just so i'd not upset him more. He's already upset because of a lot of his issues about me. :c
bun7009
Sat, Apr 3, 2021 12:04 PM
hi, you deserve someone not toxic. If he can't change then dump him. Dami pang lalake dyan, di lang yung guy mo. Based from reading your responses, it seems like mental/emotional abuse yan. Ask yourself, if you have a daughter
bun7009
Sat, Apr 3, 2021 12:04 PM
payag ka ba yung daughter mo will settle for someone like your guy?
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Sat, Apr 3, 2021 12:05 PM
peanut9111: he can talk it out.. but i can't.. i'm bad with feelings talk... and it'll take a lot of congincing and patience and safe space for me to start opening up... so the moment i felt unsafe with him, i stopped being open about my feelings and we're just discussing his issues whenever we have an argument...
moose1708
Sat, Apr 3, 2021 12:06 PM
ignore, forgive, move on, stand up
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Sat, Apr 3, 2021 12:06 PM
An argument that i don't even participate in because i don't even try to defend my point anymore. It's easier to just let him win all the time even if it's eating me out inside :c
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Sat, Apr 3, 2021 12:07 PM
peanut9111: and even if he doesn't want to compromise, it's okay. because i do. if he can't compromise for me, i will compromise for him. :c
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Sat, Apr 3, 2021 12:08 PM
even if that means i have to compromise all the time, i will. :c
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Sat, Apr 3, 2021 12:08 PM
fly5453: :c
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Sat, Apr 3, 2021 12:10 PM
bun7009: he... he's amazing when we're not arguing over something :c
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Sat, Apr 3, 2021 12:12 PM
i don't want to give up on him just yet. we're just new. only a few months in. so every time, i just keep on hoping his response will change. i still am. :c
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Sat, Apr 3, 2021 12:14 PM
bun7009: i want to work it out with him pero problema ko din kasi, i'm bad at communicating my feelings without getting too overwhelmed by the situation that i'll just cry :c
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Sat, Apr 3, 2021 12:16 PM
moose1708: that's what i honestly try to do everyday :c
shrimp6870
Sat, Apr 3, 2021 12:29 PM
Leave. U deserve better
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Sat, Apr 3, 2021 1:49 PM
shrimp6870: :c
pigeon8401
Sat, Apr 3, 2021 2:57 PM
Leave. You only get one life don't waste it. Respect yourself enough to leave. Love yourself enough to leave.
pigeon8401
Sat, Apr 3, 2021 2:58 PM
ಠ_ಠ: I don't know him but I have this feeling na he won't change.
moose1708
Sat, Apr 3, 2021 7:07 PM
it is hard at first, pero syempre you need to be stronger kesa ipilit mo pa sa kanya kahit wala naman na..
mole6501
Sun, Apr 4, 2021 1:40 AM
thats gaslighting sis, it's the red flag for me. but who knows, your the only one who know him better. both of u should talk about it.
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