[relationship] ok, I'm working through a relationship thing, could use advice

nothing major

just, my boyfriend has mentioned off and on, with growing frequency, since February that he wants to switch his computer setup and his bed around so he can get out of bed more easily and sleep better

I'm all for this

but he keeps not doing it

he didn't do it this past weekend, I know, because it was still in it's old setup when he video called me yesterday

I wasn't there last weekend because he said he had a lot to do, which I figured included the room switch. he had a medical issue on Sunday, but he could have done it on Saturday

he was probably out playing Pokemon

I haven't pressed this because it doesn't affect me, but if I go back there for longer, it will, because he doesn't sleep as well when I'm in bed with him in the current setup and then he gets crabby

next weekend is apparently some big Pokemon Go thing, so I may or may not see him then, but I'm considering kind of making an ultimatum

at least of "I'm not staying with you longer-term until you change things around"

(part of my annoyance is that on one of the last weekends I was there earlier this summer, he decided to do the switch, but then got distracted or something, so we spent all afternoon and evening driving around, first with Pokemon, then out to Montauk)

I would definitely at least tell him that you don’t sleep well with things in the current setup, if you haven’t already?

oh, no, I sleep pretty much fine. he's the one with the major issue, because I apparently roll close to him in my sleep (partly because he's much bigger than I am)

that's one of the reasons I haven't said anything, because I'm not affected hugely, so I figured he'd take initiative, because it's his problem

but he keeps putting it off, and then stuff comes up, and he puts it off more, and it's been nearly six months since he brought it up

Ah, sorry

it's ok

Either way, it’s worth bringing up!

yeah, I will bring it up somehow. when he mentions it, I have been pointing out that he keeps saying he'll do it.

Possibly also asking if he needs help with it - if it’s a two person job, he may have been putting it off for that reason?

I just have this fear of "being a nag" and I feel like, since it's his problem and his room, he should be a big boy and do it on his own, but I have to do something

that is a way in, yeah

it is a large undertaking, which is why he wanted to do it that one weekend, I think, when I was there

Yeah, that’s legit, but there are ways to do it without being a nag!

and I'm willing to help! I am! but I'm not going to keep bringing it up

Probably one of the easiest would be “let’s do [thing] now/ when you’re next there”

that's what I'm thinking, of saying we'll do it the next time I'm there

/nodnod