This catch-22 presents women with a few options, none of which are appealing. You can directly pursue a man, but only if you want to convey that you’re only in it for sex.
You can choose not to pursue him, but then you’re relegated to this historic, passive role that doesn’t jibe with your active, considered approach to any other area of life, be it work or real estate or even friendship. Carbino sees this tension in her own research.
"According to these women, their professional background is already intimidating to many men and they feel as though asking them out would make them less attractive and even more intimidating," she says.
"The men I interview also state that they prefer to be the individual who initiates the date and at times find women who ask them out to be more aggressive."
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