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( RL // sort of personal ????? )
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i always wonder how much it is 'okay' to share personal struggles with depression and anxiety
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Like especially in job situations
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because on one hand it helps to explain where a person is coming from
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on another I don't want to be seen as using it as a crutch or seen as a liability
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I take care not to share a lot of my more deep and personal struggle. I even keep a lot of it from-- 'these' places. because I dont consider the internet a complete safe haven
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anyway i don't expect a real answer or even want advice
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it's just something i always wrestle with
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and wonder about
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I generally am pretty open about bringing it up jsut a quick
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"I struggle with anxiety"
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because I think a lot (Dare I say most) people I meet understand that
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Depression just seems to put another 'mark' on you though
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tha'ts partially my own judgement-- something i struggle with.
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probably somethign something something childhood something something something aunt diane
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(In short. my aunt diane has severe depression. has attempted suicide. been in and out of hospitals)
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(She's a sweet wonderful woman. She's just led a hard life because of the bullshit in her brain)
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(I am sure there were microaggressive/ passive aggressive judgements my father had made and possibly even my mother had made when I was growing up about her in paticular)
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(Things which are harder to shake when ingrained with age and not to mention popular belief on those sorts of matters)
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i wonder the same thing. i've only told 2 people at work, one who's become a good friend, and then just another coworker of mine, just to be able to explain why sometimes i have a hard time dealing
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but yeah, my friend coworker was super understanding, and she's been through the same thing. my other coworker was very supportive, but i know there was some confusion in the mix with her
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and i've told my supervisor that i have a medical thing and i take meds for it, but that's about all he knows. he asked me once if there was anything they could do at work to help
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and i was just like "what am i supposed to do, ask you to take it easy on me all the time? don't give me criticism? that's stupid"
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i guess i worry it'll end up sounding like an excuse to be lazy :\
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Yeah pretty much
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we had our teachers tell us to not come to them saying that we were depressed because everyone was feeling the same way
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and that just undermined all my feelings
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i felt like i exaggerated everything I felt during that final year and still feel now
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All I can really say is, I have the same thoughts (though with 'bipolar' instead, obv). It's hard to know what the employer's feelings are about mental illness without asking, but it's a huge risk to ask at all
Troy👻McClure
And...wow, your teachers o-o There's a difference between being stressed to the point of feeling low, and having depression