just explained to ana what i thought was an innocuous interaction with paloma that ultimately resulted in paloma getting pissed with me. ana highlighted the one thing i said that was fucked up and told me exactly what i should’ve said instead. not to perpetuate the stereotype that butches are like men but wow i do not understand women.

girltalking with my coworkers is crazy because multiple of them have been like “you’re like my boyfriend”. is this because i’m blunt/simple in the way a slightly aloof and out of touch but well-meaning man is or is it because im a dyke