skerple
[rl vent]
skerple
I am slowly losing my Fucking Mind
skerple
I cannot deal with the amount of LOUD in this house
skerple
part of it is absolutely my fault, I haven't gotten around to attaching the sound-dampening foam squares to the Fake Styrofoam Wall that we've put up as a slapdash sound barrier
skerple
but also that Fake Styrofoam Wall covers only part of an open space that faces directly into the Loudest Part Of The House, and it is becoming very clear to me that the remaining part absolutely also needs to be blocked off because it currently functions as more of a Sound Funnel
skerple
I am. so stressed. I just want QUIET
skerple
putting it down right now for accountability: I'm going to start working on those damn sound panels tomorrow
skerple
both so I can Have It Done and also so I can see how much of a difference it makes sound-wise
Hamlet 3.3.87
would noise cancelling headphones help?
skerple
so I can make the case to dad about getting some more styrofoam to block off the remaining part
skerple
Hamlet 3.3.87
: gently clasps your shoulders, a pained look on my face
skerple
I am wearing noise canceling headphones
skerple
and also listening to drawfee
Hamlet 3.3.87
oh
Hamlet 3.3.87
um
Hamlet 3.3.87
maybe murder?
nihaowdy
skerple
I do think that unfortunately murdering my niece's husband may not win me brownie points with the rest of the family
Hamlet 3.3.87
fuck
nihaowdy
WAIT IT'S NOT THE BABY? I ASSUMED IT WAS THE BABY
nihaowdy
KICK HIS ASS
Hamlet 3.3.87
um...
skerple
IT'S NOT EVEN THE FUCKING BABY
skerple
THE BABY IS LIKE FINE
Hamlet 3.3.87
I've heard a lot of people go missing in national parks....
pastel ranma
What the fuck the husband is the loud one, not the baby?!
skerple
yeah I cannot possibly stress enough that this man has like. the least indoor voice of any person I have ever known
pastel ranma
Is he one of those dudes that yells at games?
skerple
yes
skerple
and also just Talks Loudly
pastel ranma
fuuuuck
skerple
my understanding is that he grew up with kind of a sibling situation where speaking volume was PVP enabled
nihaowdy
like what is this grown-ass man doing at such a volume as to get through noise cancelling headphones and drawfee that there is no room for Reducing The Active Noise instead of rolling you into an acoustic foam burrito
skerple
and so developed, out of self-defense, the loudest clearest projectingest voice I have ever encountered
pastel ranma
Definitely not an excuse, but an explanation, wow
skerple
in fairness, I don't often complain to him about his volume
skerple
in less fairness, it's because if I did that every time his volume was stressing me out it would be every day and sometimes multiple times a day
skerple
he's genuinely fine with trying to drop his volume when I do ask him! it's just that like
skerple
1. I would actually shrivel into a raisin and die if I tried to ask him every time or even half the times I want to
skerple
2. he is not always successful at keeping it down even when he is in fact trying
nihaowdy
ok so like. from the perspective of someone who is often too damned loud after brad has gone to bed and has to be asked to quiet down, in spite of sound dampening measures: he cannot learn to restrain his volume if he thinks his volume is fine
nihaowdy
i understand the raisin point. i do.
nihaowdy
but "not always successful even while trying" leads to a better survival ratio if he is trying more often
nihaowdy
but it may be worth it to put up the foam, see how it works, and then ask him what he can do to mitigate the situation
skerple
nods
nihaowdy
bc if he's genuinely fine with trying to drop his volume when you ask, he probably hasn't gotten it into his head that his volume is also a problem the rest of the time
nihaowdy
and like, i don't know him, but I'd personally feel pretty bad if i was accidentally putting a housemate through psychological torture
skerple
yeah, that's a good point
sugar blood
do you have like, a clothes rack or something you could put up in the meantime
sugar blood
standing closet
sugar blood
clothes are pretty good sound dampeners :c
skerple
I do, actually! It's something I've been meaning to get to
skerple
like actually let me pull the camera back a bit here so I'm not focusing completely in on Loud Housemate
skerple
my room is in A Goddamn State and I've been sitting in a miserable paralysis about it for months
nihaowdy
anyway sorry to pop off into problem solving mode, hugs, constant sound is a Lot
skerple
and part of the Goddamn State is in fact incomplete sound mitigation measures
nihaowdy
i feel that. i've got the foam squares up on my wall rn and i def had them stacked on every surface for a while first
skerple
sad handshake
nihaowdy
especially because they do not want to adhere. To Anything
skerple
but yeah I feel like a huge asshole asking him to be quiet when I haven't even put up my acoustic foam
Hamlet 3.3.87
foam tomorrow! we can pact if you want: I have a rug I've been meaning to get placed for weeks now and stalling out
one more bite ★
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skerple
Hamlet 3.3.87
: pact!! yes let us pact
skerple
I can't promise I'll get all the foam done but I can promise I'll make a good faith effort to try
skerple
just went and grabbed the double-sided tape so it's ready at hand for tomorrow
Hamlet 3.3.87
ye! we will make progress! together!
RobotApocalypse
speaking as a greek person here (ie someone who is just, like this, on a cultural level), i am seconding telling him he's being too loud as often as necessary
RobotApocalypse
i do in fact feel bad if i am being Way Too Loud without realizing it! I would prefer to be told so I can make an effort to not be!
RobotApocalypse
if you would have to ask often then it might be a good idea to sit down with him and like, figure out a signal you can use so you don't have to go to him with the "hey can you please lower your volume thanks" every time
RobotApocalypse
in my family we will usually do like a placating "patting the air" kind of hand gesture to signal each other "you are being way too loud right now, chill" or will just tell each other "inside voice" if a verbal reminder is needed
thetaClysm
as someone living in the downstairs of an old house whose floors make a lot of Noises when people are walking around upstairs, and whose brain is Extremely Bothered by all the creaks and groans, i... feel this
thetaClysm
i know that i personally would wither and crumble into dust if i tried to so much as ask "hey can you maybe not step on the dead center of the loudest spot in the house with your full weight when you get up at 3 in the morning"
thetaClysm
let alone asking anything more substantive, e.g. "can you try not to do it in the middle of the day either"