it's incredibly a mess because... i've had these brainworms a lot over the past few months over things that aren't queerness but fall into a lot of the same problems
being inclusive is harder than it seems because all it takes is one bad faith actor to pivot the scales from "good faith understanding" to "bad faith profiling", and god damn there are a LOT of bad faith actors out there
maybe not a large number of people, but bad faith actors are incredibly aggressive and mobilized in a way that nobody engaging on good faith can or would want to be
bluntly speaking I don't think it's actually that complicated to not be a dick so I don't agree on any level because that just fosters an attitude where people have to perform their identities instead of being safe to explore them but I have also decided I'm tired of tolerating people who assume I'm acting in bad faith so I'm extremely cranky about this
I think our cynicism fell on opposite sides of the "fight this bullshit" divide but we're equally as cynical about what goes on, and i'm sorry i keep... trying to explain bullshit we suffer
the fact of the matter is that sexuality and gender can and often ARE fluid and by trying to enforce rigid, performative roles forces people to be what Society Accepts instead of just being, themselves
it's really, really not my intent, clover