[pride] hello am bisexual and gender fluid and I have strong feelings about how exclusionary queer communities are

it's incredibly a mess because... i've had these brainworms a lot over the past few months over things that aren't queerness but fall into a lot of the same problems

being inclusive is harder than it seems because all it takes is one bad faith actor to pivot the scales from "good faith understanding" to "bad faith profiling", and god damn there are a LOT of bad faith actors out there

maybe not a large number of people, but bad faith actors are incredibly aggressive and mobilized in a way that nobody engaging on good faith can or would want to be

I mean all I am asking is to not get told I'm not fucking welcome at pride because my partner happens to be a cis man, this isn't actually a big ask.

yeah.

yeah when it comes to a public event you gotta have the best faith

and I would much rather let "straight" people be tourists at pride than exclude people who have no other community to turn to.

YES

you're the one who opened the doors, motherfucker, stop gatekeeping or admit you ain't really proud enough to accept outside interference

I was thinking on a much smaller, more personal scale, but fucking. parades and open assembly? no

stop trying to gatekeep that shit!

you're helping your enemies by hurting people they ALSO hate!

bluntly speaking I don't think it's actually that complicated to not be a dick so I don't agree on any level because that just fosters an attitude where people have to perform their identities instead of being safe to explore them but I have also decided I'm tired of tolerating people who assume I'm acting in bad faith so I'm extremely cranky about this

fact of the matter is you can't tell people's sexuality by looking so you just gotta believe when they choose to tell you

yeah

I think our cynicism fell on opposite sides of the "fight this bullshit" divide but we're equally as cynical about what goes on, and i'm sorry i keep... trying to explain bullshit we suffer

it's really, really not my intent, clover

the fact of the matter is that sexuality and gender can and often ARE fluid and by trying to enforce rigid, performative roles forces people to be what Society Accepts instead of just being, themselves

we're on the same page there, entirely