i feel guilt constantly because i end up finding shit with titles like "Futanari-Sama and Her Maids" and I feel the violent pain of those kinds of words and I realize that by enjoying the aesthetic I'm arguably feeding the problem
that said I think the main problem the trans community has with futa is a twofold thing? One, that it objectifies people with non-binary body forms, two, some people take the term futanari as a slur?
Funnily enough I do not actually equate the two personally. Whenever I see trans porn labeled as futa I get annoyed not because I'm offended (though that is offensive) so much as because this is not what I was looking for.
like, what you're interested in is an objectified form, but you're also of the mind that it's Not Something That Real People Are (But It'd Be Really Cool If They Were)
Let me be clear here. I’m not offended that people don’t agree, soba. I’m just sad about it and the fact and the fact that it’s so prevalent creates a feeling of shame
parrot, while I understand and share your fear, I do need to point out: bad faith actors will find ways to make ANY 'silly little kink' emotionally harmful, and the people who actually are close enough that you'd want to share kinks with should trust you enough to at least trust that you're not trying to?
I just wish I could immediately tell every transwoman I interact with: "I do not see you as this. I do not want you to be this. This is a fantasy kink that has nothing to do with you unless you wish it to."
I'm a transbian with a pregnancy kink so just by the intersection of those two things, I have to be into futa and/or trans ladies getting it on with other ladies. It feels "problematic" to be into either, because futa is (gestures above) and being into trans ladies going at it is still reducing it to a porn category or something
What do people want, you to be stoic and unsatisfied for the sake of being unobjectified? Where’s the fucking line when you feel bad about wanting material about fellow trans people?
Eh, sometimes the word just has links in our brains we don't like, gin. I, for example, despise the word "demisexual", even though the concept of demisexuality makes perfect sense and I'm pretty sure applies to me directly.
I blame the furry community; they're the ones leaning to gynomorph (boobs + dick) and andromorph (flat + vag) for intersexed variants instead of things like futa or
...we don't talk about what terms they use for the other. please
Samus: "You ate my parents, and now you're taunting me with your Hugh Jass?!" Ridley: "Dat's right! Your parents' lamentations have ADDED to my glutemus maximus!"
also you ever have that moment when you love writing/drawing a Specific Kink but it's one you would not be into irl but also you can't mention it because it comes across weird or triggering to people?
in full honesty, knowing what I do of how Stephen Hillenburg was, probably because there was some obscure ass whale fact he wanted to sneak into her appearances
I do feel like as long as there's awareness that fantasy =/= reality and you're respectful towards real people, there really shouldn't be any shame in enjoying whatever kinks you want
look sometimes you just want to write your character getting tied up (consentually) and been mercilessly bullied (consentually) and treated like someone's proverbial squeaktoy
THIS. THIS is why I completely am unashamed about being a furry. until the day that krystal starfox can walk up to me on the street and say hello, the very fact that my aesthetic tastes lean toward anthros mean that everything I want is fiction anyway
unfortunately we've been at the natural end point of Bad Broken Brain Logic for at least a decade now in non-fandom spheres and it keeps persisting because the highest level non-logical nonsense feat is "I reject your reality and substitute my own"
i mean I have questions about this I know there's a group of people with attraction to literal inanimate objects or objects-as-people and I feel like they'd get cranky about this reasoning
Anyway you guys have given me confidence to write that gynomorph/futa universe multi fandom AU fic I’ve been considering after all so thank you all for giving me the courage
gin, i love you, and i understand your fear and the unstated third point of "wow a lot of people into a/b/o in the ff7 fandom are really unhealthy about it"
as someone who's also into futa i think the difference between futa and trans woman porn is that in the fictional world where futas exist, they don't have a transgender experience
it's a very granular differentiation but it's like... if you want porn about a trans woman you are looking for someone who has a specific kind of gender experience
i apologize for taking it in this direction
...we don't talk about what terms they use for the other. please
Ridley: "Dat's right! Your parents' lamentations have ADDED to my glutemus maximus!"
you want shame? i find pearl krabs attractive, there that's shame
it's been here the whole timewait no
chew on me, ridley