‘preferred’ pronouns. By which is usually meant, the pronouns a person would prefer other people to use when they are the subject being discussed by those people.
Almost without exception, the people who request, or demand, others talk about them using specific pronouns, are asking for pronouns associated with the opposite sex to their own.
One of the biggest obstacles to halting the stampede over women’s rights is pronoun and preferred name ‘courtesy’. People severely underestimate the psychological impact to themselves, and to others, of compliance.
You’ll find you have to consciously fight the conflict of input to your brain each and every time. And it leaves you confused, distracted, slower, frustrated and fatigued.
Forcing our brains to ignore the evidence of our eyes, to ignore a conflict between what we see and know to be true, and what we are expected to say, affects us.
USING preferred pronouns does the same. It alters your attention, your speed of processing, your automaticity. You may find it makes you anxious. You pay less heed to what you want to say, and more to what is expected of you. It slows you down, confuses you, makes you less reactive. That’s not a good thing.
網路文章 Pronouns are Rohypnol
「我想要你以這種方式提及我」
幾乎無一例外地，要求他人使用特定代名詞的人們，都是在要求用跟他們的性別相反的代名詞來指涉他們。
但我拒絕使用女性代名詞來指涉任何一位男性。
因為(偏好)代名詞就像Rohypnol（FM2、約會強暴丸）
(說出寫出來的顏色名字而非顏色本身)
在進行這項小實驗時，你會發現你必須時時刻刻、有意識地對抗這些彼此衝突的資訊，而這會讓你困惑、分心、思考減慢與疲勞。
「使用」偏好代名詞也會造成同樣的影響。
它改變你的注意力、你處理資訊的速度、自動反應的能力，同時你也可能因而覺得焦慮。
你需要忽略你「想要說什麼」，而把注意力放在你「被期待」說什麼。
它會使你的思考速度下降並降低你的反應力，而這不是好事。
‘This is how I want you to talk about me’.
Forcing our brains to ignore the evidence of our eyes, to ignore a conflict between what we see and know to be true, and what we are expected to say, affects us.