[foster] :| day four. Kid is sick with a cold. I made a deal with Sergio that because he was literally in meetings from sun up to sun down that I could do kid work even though we were both working from home if he could give me Sunday. Now I’m making doctor appointments, updating caseworkers, and texting him what to get, multiple times

I feel like I just got promoted to manager but no one wants to CC my husband and he’s like “well yeah I don’t know what kids eat when they’re sick.” Bro

She doesn’t want to go with him to a doctor tomorrow, she wants to go with me. But I’m going out of town that day.

Also I CANT CLIMB STAIRS WELL. So I can’t physically go up and check on her like I want to

chicken noodle soup, duh

Legit

...I'm honestly asking, especially since it'd be so logistically difficult: why would the common cold require a doctor's appointment? (Obviously if the kid has medical complications, ignore me.)

There was something about eye infection?'

foster care also gives less leeway on that kind of stuff due to policy and procedure

I see! That makes sense, thank you.

tell him to GOOGLE IT

man you need a baby monitor or walkie-talkies or something

for checking on kid

hmm

is this "I actually dont know what sick kids eat" or "I'm pretty sure I know but I'm terrified of messing this up"

She’s been sick for a month. She was on the mend before. So it’s rough because everyone defers to me for everything

And she doesn’t talk much to Sergio because he gets a little frantic sometimes

So I’m dealing with the guilt of not being able to check on her myself because I can only climb stairs once a day, and trying to manage Sergio’s feelings, and talking to doctors and DCF and her former foster mom. It’s rough

She also had a primary who literally just retired. And no one at her office wants to talk to me because they haven’t processed the paperwork switch

does the kid know sergio is autistic?

yeah, unfortunately i'm guessing that a lot of this kind of thing will default to you

Maybe but she kind of retains information half and half sometimes too

since, you know, moms do everything

if coming out with us tomorrow is adding more stress, dont worry about it

but also and simultaneously

this is absolutely not fair to you

it might be a good conversation to have again with her

because if she doesn't want to do things with him that's going to be an issue too

bluecanary : I think I’m okay. I talked with her, told her that Sergio was going to take her but if she wanted a woman there I could also ask my mom and she said yes . I think it’s a gender thing

So yeah Sergio knows what he needs to do and bring. We are gonna have a family dinner tonight and I’ll bring my mom over then

ahhh having your mom go is a good backup

Just had lunch, she ate soup and Gatorade, took pills, looks better, no temperature to report. I think I’m on edge because this has been an ongoing sickness that I felt I contributed to because I fed her tomatoes and garlic last night

and she still wants to cook for us tonight so fun times

? why would that contribute?

Acid from tomatoes irritates sore throats

oh. i never noticed it that much

Okay we are good. Mom reassured me I am not the worst person in the world. Kid is happy. We are happy. Everyone is hanging and the cabbage rolls were A+