[NCOD] Hello I've basically decided I'm on the asexual spectrum. Currently comfy with the greysexual label.

Panromantic for sure.

Also got third covid shot today and my arm is pain

Greysexual/Panromantic/Vaccinated

Hell yeah

How do you feel otherwise apart from the arm? Personally I got fatigue and chills after each shot, the second one being the toughest (bedridden for two days instead of just one)

All good so far! I've only ever gotten the pain. Nurse told me this one might make me sick bc the third one commonly does but so far nothing.

Third one felt same as the first one for me

Hope it will stay as nothing for you!

If you do get frossa, bundle up!!

ofc!

yay shot!

Awesome sauce on the everything :3

So let me describe to you the story of me realising I'm probably ace.

Me, reading about demisexuality for the first time: Uhmm, why does this have its own label? Needing emotional connection to feel sexual attraction is just normal, right?

Fast forward many years.

Me: Still don't really get why demisexual needs its own label tbh but also who cares, if it works for you I don't judge.

Also me: Man I will never understand this whole "ooOOooOooo I just couldn't help myself and slept with someone, oops" drama trope like what is this. Cheating? Don't get it. You can't keep your hands off someone? I don't know what that's like. (Which isn't to say all allosexuals are all incapable of controlling themselves, obviously).

Me, about a year ago: ...wait hold on let me ask some friends. When you say you're attracted to someone, you sometimes actually want to bang them?

You often actually want to bang them???

Friends: Yeah man.

Me: ???!??!?!?!?!!

I feel so seen rn

Cue, me: Wait, am I actually on the ace spectrum? Demisexuality is a label because a lot of people don't need emotional connection to feel sexual attraction? What the fuck??

And my mind was blown.

Then I told mum about my revelation and she was like wait really??

Maybe I'm demi too.

After some more thinking I realised sexual attraction doesn't really happen after emotional connection for me either so I decided greysexual fits bc I think I have occasionally felt actual sexual attraction to people regardless of my connection with them

I mean there is also a difference between just thinking someone is hot/attractive in a vague way and wanting to do anything? I think?

i definitely think there is a difference between like.... aesthetic appreciation and sexual interest is probably the best way i can put it

i can look at someone and think 'oooh shiny' but i will never want to sleep with them

and i will never understand cheating on your partner lol, that is just wild to me

even if you don't love them anymore or whatever but omg it's so dismissive of the partner's feelings

Yeah, that's exactly it. And I just thought they were the same thing?

But turns out not exactly.