It's a really sad feeling when you find an rp partner you click with and then suddenly it just stops. Out of the blue. They just stop. And you sit and wait and wait some more.

It just makes me sad. I wish I knew why that happened.

yeah, it's hard, and I know I've been guilty of it myself

but what happens with me usually is that my partner moves on to a new fandom

there's some people I know....their writing's amazing, but they have a tendency to hyperfixate on one character only, and when they get a new muse everything with the old one is immediately dropped, and they switch every six months or so

but I don't have that excuse

I've had that happen to me too. Lost a good friend to a hyperfixation that left me behind.

I cant be like that

I have this problem, and I feel bad about it. Sometimes muses can be fleeting but it's no excuse on my end. But by the time I have the will to respond, I always feel like it's been too long and they won't respond.

it's always a constant struggle to find people you vibe with at the right place at the right time

have you talked to them about it?

Hey mussel? You should do it anyway. I know it might feel weird and I know I’m guilty of being too anxious to do this sometimes too but like. The worst that could happen is they don’t respond, right? And if that happens then that’s that! But it might just spark things up again!! You’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain!

Just imagine how you’d feel if you suddenly got a tag from a great thread that had gotten dropped, Y’know? It’d be rad, right?

I actually had a stranger from a meme PM me literal months after a thread dropped and be like HEY SORRY I MISSED THIS DID YOU WANT TO CONTINUE and I was so thrilled and we picked back up and we got to talking and now we’re friends!

That's good advice, and I do that on occasion, but I've also gotten ghosted a couple times that way too. I'm also horrendously insecure but that's not really an excuse

Anyway, OP - I’ve got the same question as butter. I think communication is really important in this sort of scenario.

I have. Or tried to. I'm afraid I come off sounding needy or desperate so I end up chickening out. Sometimes they apologise and promise to be better and that isn't what I want. I don't want them to feel guilty or like a bad friend. Because I don't think they are.

Getting ghosted sucks, for sure. What I try to remind myself is that basically everyone in this hobby is some level of anxious and insecure and is probably going through the same motions I am in these situations. I know with the meme thread I was so worried I had overstepped somehow and weirded them out to an extent they dropped

but it turns out that wasn’t the case at all!

I’m working on getting better and having more confidence. It’s a work in progress and I can’t say I’ve been brave enough to touch every thread I’ve let go idle, but I’m trying to retrain my brain.

They might not reply to you if you pick it back up, but they certainly won’t (and indeed, can’t!) if you don’t even try and reach out. I don’t want to carry those regrets about “oh I shouldn’t have let that go” anymore. S’not healthy.

OP - I totally get that. Its kind of awkward to try and put that out thete. I have definitely been both in the “wants someone to respond” and the “feeling guilty for not responding” situations myself. (Hell maybe this post is even about me!!)

Ahh I’ve got to get back to work. I’ll come back and say more words later.

Yeah and it's possible the notif got thrown into spam or didn't get delivered... or they got overwhelmed with something else and forgot to circle back

^^^ this re: notifs. at least in my opinon, please let us know if we havent tagged something. i've had people legit mad at me for not getting to a tag and that was because i lost the notif. i never drop something unless the person in question has asked to handwave

because i want to avoid all that OP and plenty of people feel. like, i'm doing my part. there's no reason for me to be anxious.

at least the threaddrop isn't coming from me, you know?

I feel this. Most if not all of my PSLs get dropped. I would love to continue and build onto the scenes we’ve created but it’s pretty clear the other person no longer has interest rping with me. And I’ve asked if they are still interested and most are ‘oh yes! Definitely! I’ll tag that tonight!’ And still nothing.

I feel this too