Just.. I need to just get this out.. maybe get some opinions..
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Just.. I need to just get this out.. maybe get some opinions..
Just.. I need to just get this out.. maybe get some opinions..
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So i finally spoke to my former step-dad...
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on the phone
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and it feels like he was gaslighting me again
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the thing i was mad at him about.. back before i moved and he said all those things about my weight and implying thats why i cant get a job and trying to push the exercise bike on me..
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'oh i didnt mean it in a bad way. i meant it about your physical fitness...'
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acting like i have no reason to be mad
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that i will just go ahead and do things for them without asking for money next time..
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'you made your mom really mad'
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just because i told him what made me upset, its automatically meaning that things are fine now..
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the way he was talking
ouji
There really is no delicate way to approach peoples weight and others need to learn that
ouji
Honestly they can try to dress it up by saying it's for your benefit and well being but that doesn't make it any better or excuse how rude it comes off as
ouji
Even if they are your parent figure like learn some respect man
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exactly!
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also it was implied that i have no choice in that i have to go watch the dogs for them when they go to mexico in winter..
Dolly
Tell them that if they don't want to pay you to look after them, then they can go find a dog-sitting service instead :/
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it's so hard for me to say this to them. they just assume i'll have no choice but to do it and have nothing better to do.
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god. i need to get my passport renewed and then just conveniently go on a trip somewhere around the time they wanna go and say 'oh, no. sorry. i can't.'
sin town
listen, even if they refuse to pay you in cash, they need to at least pay you in food.
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true. thats a very important thing here ;;
Parsnip
i would also make them pay you in transportation costs.
sin town
that too. Like if they aren’t paying you for actually watching them then they need to make it comfortable for you. Food, transport, etc
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precisely. i had asked for this the last time as i'd have to likely cab out there and would probably have to cab back into town if i needed anything..
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and they'd gotten all upset at me
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esp. since like.. 1 trip a day in and out of town was going to be like... $40-$45 for a ride there and back.. not even counting whatever i had to get for myself..
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I had asked $150 to be safe, to cover any food costs, any cab trips i needed to make.. my time away from home where i couldn't do my tutoring job..
ᴡᴇʀᴇɴʏᴀɴ
paying transport + food is standard, even if asking family
ᴡᴇʀᴇɴʏᴀɴ
no one is gonna shell out 40 bucks out of their pocket to watch someone's dog... and not expect to get paid for it
ᴡᴇʀᴇɴʏᴀɴ
not even family
Dolly
^^^^
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Thank god someone seems reasonable. I hate that they just expect me to do it just because they;re family.
Dolly
definitely not