So because of housemate shenanigans (nothing terrible, just....a lot of shuffling + landlord clownery ) I’m looking into getting a place on my own once my lease is up

And I’m....excited?? Nervous?? Both??? This is the first time I’ll have actually had the opportunity/ability to do so

I’ve never lived solo before and I feel like it’ll either be very very good for me or very very bad and I won’t know which until I actually do it lol

If anyone who lives alone has advice, I welcome it

it certainly has its pros and cons

I find that it made me more productive, because there was nobody else who was gonna do those dishes or wash that laundry or vacuum that living room

buuuuut also I lived kinda far away from friends and I got super lonely and sad

(but also I did not have pets, I'm sure pets make things a little bit better)

Yeah, I expect it’ll have the same effect on me re: productivity--even when living with folks I always seem to have an easier time doing housework when nobody else is around

Loneliness is the BIG worry factor here for me, I don’t have pets and likely won’t get one anytime soon especially if I plan on living overseas for a bit (which is a big maybe still, will figure that one out over the next couple years)

But even living with folks I get hit with some pretty hardcore loneliness with the times being what they are so...I’ll figure it out

nodnod

Chilling in sable voice helps but obviously I can’t just monopolize peoples time

I had many other factors that were exacerbating the loneliness at the time (shitty job, tenuous finances, no antidepressants) so I'm not sure how bad it would have been for me if I had the resources I do now

OF COURSE YOU CAN MONOPOLIZE OUR TIME RED

FHSJSJ I MEAN PEOPLE HAVE LIVES THEY CANT JUST BE SPENDING ALL THAT TIME WITH ME

Also yeah I feel like finances are...probably a big factor both re: stability and also medical stuff and if I manage to make it through this program I’m in and into a job my income is going to jump by an amount that is frankly a little fucked up so maybe that’ll help???

that'd help immensely tbh

finances do a LOT for stability. in every way.

I’m. Very much looking forward to the day I don’t have a complete panic attack about a basic doctor visit. I just gotta. Actually make it through to January

I DO really wish my other roomie wasn’t hightailing it out of here before the lease was up bc that makes things very complicated until then but. That’s how it is