So I can't see an emergency dentist until I'm in actual pain and suffering. Which sucks.

Sucks more than I've gotten grief over not lying and saying I was. I don't like to lie. And I really feel uncomfortable being told by my parents that I should lie about something like this.

I mean, okay, they might see me. But what if they realised I was lying once I get into the dentists office and comment on it?

Or I'm taking the place of someone who has a legitimate dental emergency?

I was just told I can call and they'd see me so I wanted to get ahead of it. If I have to wait until I start feeling pain, so be it.

the only one who knows how much pain you're in is you. i know you don't like lying but in this case.... there's so much bullshit going on in the medical/healthcare world and this is a good example of it. if it's an emergency, it's an emergency

you can have an emergency and not be in pain

I just need to work out of I need to let my bosses know that I might end up calling in sick one day in the very near future and I'm sorry about that.

everyone has different levels of pain tolerance, or maybe there's a damaged/dead nerve so you don't feel pain

tbh the healthcare workers and doctors are probably just following the bs rule because they have to. they are required to, if it's anything like it is in the us

no one decent is going to try and in depth grill you over a tooth

Oh I'm not in any pain at all. A little twinge the other day. But the temp filling that was put in is still there.

But I suppose you have a point.

they're not gonna hook up a lie detector to see if you're lying

pain just isn't always a good indicator of health

like...

Yeah, that^

If you are in discomfort, that's valid

I'm ticked at your parents, to be honest. And sadly have had the same from mine. They mean well... but lying is still lying

and lying to your doctors makes it harder to get the help you need.

you're not lying about having for example seizures or something for some other reason. they probably think it's a bullshit rule and they want to help.

I've learned to answer not with a yes I am in pain but a "I need to be seen because..."

I hate lying. Especially when it's gonna be easy to tell you're lying.

personally when im in a lot of pain im not crying or dramatic but i still get taken seriously

because i have a high pain tolerance

so if anyone assumes someone's lying they're an asshole

i just want you to get better

you're not asking for opioids or something

You have to do what makes you comfortable. If you're not in pain, you shouldn't have to lie about. maybe track when the pain does happen?

yeah, you need to do what you're comfortable with, I'm sorry. Letting your bosses know in advance and tracking your pain or lack thereof sounds like good ideas.

Is this not the tooth that occasionally has you in huge amounts of pain? Cause if it is... it’s not lying. You ARE in pain, just not right this second. And also pain is both subjective and unreliable.

But I’m also with your parents on this. Lies aren’t inherently bad, especially when the alternative is postponing something for a few days at best, just so you can suffer needlessly. Like, unless you have a dental appointment booked before the next flare of pain will hit... now vs. then is not a significant difference for the provider.

I've been in the same boat with my ankle. It often has a massive amount of pain, but I often cannot afford to deal with it when it actually hurts. And I can't being myself to lie to be taken seriously.

so tracking can show "These are the times when it does hurt" and "this is the typical rate of pain." also, at least here, all going to emergency care gets you is a referral for a regular appointment.

Is this the reason you wake up with splitting headaches also??

+1 to Chag. Lies aren't ALWAYS bad. Especially when you need the care. Tweaking a truth a bit isn't bad when you need medical care.
lying about things like legal stuff ofc is bad, but this ain't that

Also, you don't need to be in constant pain for the answer to "are you in pain" to be yes