She will not keep up on their vaccines and care and she is downright manipulative and guilt tripping if you call her out for it (which I have many, many times)
Merrill is my fur baby. Rufio I saved and raised since he was 1 month old and you want me to give them to someone who I know will neglect their care just so THEY feel better?
I'm just a firm believer that if keeping your furniture pristine is that much of a priority, just don't get a pet that can interact with it in a way that will cause a mess. it's an animal it's going to be an animal.
i had a toxic great aunt too but when she decided my mom's funeral was a super time to be a cu next tuesday to me a grieving 12-year-old and went around looking at all the paintings my maternal grandmother did that hung in our house asking which ones she was getting (she was my paternal great aunt, mind) my dad cut her out of our lives pretty happily.
At a distance, she's lovely. She dotes on nieces and nephews, she chips in with money if ever someone was in a pinch. She's even pleasant in conversation, so long as she's controlling it lol
So doing a strong move like a nursing home for her, the family would turn against my dad who, at this point, is expected to continue caring for her while she's able enough to live alone
I say all these negative things. But despite all this and our falling out. She still is leaving me as a primary beneficiary to her will. Even my sister is receiving less for no other reason than I'm somehow the favorite. Like. We can talk about how screwed up that is but
yeah family should never be involved in elder care it's all about the guilt when you should not be expected to do things that people need to be professionally trained for, for freem
Steps for approaching somebody else about their pets. Step 1: Do they want to give them up already, or are they having trouble taking care of them? IF NO, THAT IS THE END OF THE STEPS.
if SHE won't care for a pet but wants one for companionship your dad could maybe look to see if there's a seniors for seniors program in the area, some vets/shelters team up to adopt out senior animals to senior citizens and they cover all the medical upkeep for the animal so that it has somewhere nice and calm to live the last years of its life
my good great aunt who was the best person alive and should have lived another 100 years did that, she had the uglest cat one of those ones that sort of looks like a sphynx but it has patches of like, curly short fur? sooo fucking ugly. no teeth. sweetest animal alive and my auntie loved her.
Merrill being a tortie is so much upkeep I never fathomed until having her around during seasonal shedding. It's absurd how many Merrill rugs I could have made by now
Hahaha, but yeah. I'll see what my dad says. He and my great aunt are on an island and while the mainland isn't so far off, it means these kinds of things might be a challenge to find. Even if they are in retirement land
"Because you didn't take me"