๐Ÿ” YEDONG...
[Reddit/AITA] LMAO wow
๐Ÿ” YEDONG...
"When I looked up all the books to get her I found out that they were all romance novels. I felt kinda cringe buying her romance novels so I looked at the common themes and found a really good fantasy novel to buy her instead called Warbreaker by Brandon Sanderson. It has a romance in it too.
๐Ÿ” YEDONG...
I figure if she likes to read then sheโ€™d be happy to broaden her horizons and branch out."
festive froda
Big โ€œIโ€™m not like other girlsโ€ vibes from OP
๐Ÿ” YEDONG...
100%
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Wh....at... if she listed novels she wants get her what she fuckin asked for.
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Youโ€™re not going to be the one reading it anyway WHO CARES.
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I would die happy if someone explicitly told me what they want
Nox
I mean, I could see giving someone a novel you think they'd enjoy that also seems like it's outside what they'd usually go for, but.

Why the fuck would you be the kind of supreme douche who 1) does so only because you don't like their taste in books, 2) does so and also doesn't give them what they actually asked for
Nox
Like if you're going to do that, make it very clear it's just an extra because you thought they'd enjoy it, don't go micromanaging somebody else's personal tastes.
festive froda
I can maybe see doing something like that for someone you know really well, a close friend or family member, but absolutely not for a coworker at your office secret santa. Just get them stuff from their list.
festive froda
It ainโ€™t your job to โ€œbroaden the horizonsโ€ of Debbie in accounting just because youโ€™re like โ€œewwww romance novels!โ€
๐Ÿ” YEDONG...
And as many commenters pointed out, the receiver may already be a fantasy fan or tried to branch out in the past and never found anything to her tastes
๐Ÿ” YEDONG...
And just wanted something more light and happy for holiday reading
Dr. Yubsie
And like... Sanderson? In what universe is Sanderson similar to those books?
Nox
I had to google the book and now I'm even more confused by what the hell was going through their head
Dr. Yubsie
If I were to rec (and, y'know, REC, not give as a gift to soemone who expressed no interest) fantasy for someone who mostly reads romance novels... HARLEQUIN HAS A FANTASY IMPRINT
Nox
"it has romance in it"

And plenty of action movies have some sort of C-plot about two characters being attracted to each other, that doesn't make it a romcom
miles you ass
"I'm not a pickme", says pickme
miles you ass
Like if you're really gonna Not Like Other Girls yourself when buying for a coworker who Is Like Other Girls, then idk what you expected
Nox
Like "Age of Ultron" wasn't a love story just because Natasha and Bruce were awkward flirting at parts
Dr. Yubsie
But a MASSIVE DOORSTOPPER?
miles you ass
Yeah Brandon Sanderson is quite a swerve
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lmfao jesus fuck I remember replying to this
Tแด€แด›แด‡ส€s.
"why did you get her what YOU wanted for christmas?"
Tแด€แด›แด‡ส€s.
I'm sure that if she listed something she wanted and her coworker got her a romance novel she wouldn't see it as "broadening her horizons"
๐Ÿ” YEDONG...
^ That too
ั•ฮฑะผั•ฮฑ
this is so disgustingly condescending lmao. like man i don't like romance but if it's something ON HER LIST, just??? fucking get that??
ั•ฮฑะผั•ฮฑ
jodi picoult isn't really my jam as a reader but my sis LOVES her and she's always putting new books out so it's the perfect gift idea
festive froda
If sheโ€™s really โ€œnot like other girlsโ€, then OP should know how fucking tiring it is to be constantly told you donโ€™t really like [thing you like] and if youโ€™d just try [xyz] instead youโ€™d be surprised!!!!
ั•ฮฑะผั•ฮฑ
and i'm glad other people pointed that "well maybe she likes fantasy but that's just not what she's reading atm" bc that's what my thought was too
ั•ฮฑะผั•ฮฑ
like i really only read fantasy but one of the only books i have on my list this year is The Final Girl Support Group
wooper
my god what a dick move
wooper
it'd be one thing if, like some of you said, you get her one book on her list and then also one you enjoyed that you think she might like
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that's the correct thing to do. you wanna broaden someone's horizons? great, but do it outside of their wishlist
wooper
but asking for romance and getting Sanderson is like asking to go to a deli and getting brought to a barbecue joint
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my half-brother tried to do that- "oh you like video games you'll like these WAY more than that stuff"
wooper
it's not even the same type of food even if they both serve meat
ั•ฮฑะผั•ฮฑ
or like. get her the books and when the gift-givers are announced go up to her after and be like "hey so you like to read? what other kind of stuff do you like?" like. strike up a CONVERSATION instead of forcing it.
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"I'm not a pumpkin spice latte and hallmark kind of girl" oh look how special op is, ~not like other girls~
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How rude and reductive, this person needs a mad wake-up call
redshirt
I personally never liked doing Secret Santa but I at least tried to follow what was on the damn list
redshirt
mostly because I had crippling anxiety that I would still get it wrong even with said list
poodle chaser
oof
๐Ÿ” YEDONG...
Also loving all the people in the comments responding to "who doesn't like Baby Yoda" with "ME"
๐Ÿ” YEDONG...
As someone who has a Baby Yoda water bottle I 100% respect people who are sick of seeing him everywhere or just plain never liked him to begin with lmao
Nox
Literally the only time I've seen someone get a person for Secret Santa and get them things not on their list and I didn't think they were an asshole was when my former roommate got an ultra-libertarian for Secret Santa and his list was all.....questionable
Nox
Like his reasoning was "I feel bad for not getting him anything on this list, but I also don't want to be on a federal watch list"
Nox
And he still made an effort to get him things that he actually thought he'd enjoy, based on what was listed. Just. Not things like fucking caltrops, knives, etc.
Nox
(which was proven to be a good call, since the guy got himself arrested within a year)
๐Ÿ” YEDONG...
jfc
Nox
Yeeeah >_> ... but like. He knew he was an ultra-libertarian, so one of the things was like a book on Thomas Jefferson's stuff advocating for limited government, etc. So it was still at least within the spirit of what he knew the guy enjoyed.

Just not, y'know, tactical gear.
Nox
And also not just "I'll get him what I enjoy because I have superior taste" fuckery
Rabbit Crimes
oh jegus, as a Sanderson fan who has ACTUALLY READ Warbreaker - SO FAR OFF THE MARK IN ADDITION TO THE ASSHOLERY
Rabbit Crimes
just get your coworker what she said she wanted and then get to know her and maybe get her a (VERY DIFFERENT) Sanderson novel if it sounds like she'd like it
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