an update: thanks to the kindness of everyone who donated to the gfm, as well as those who reached out to donate to us personally, we were able to pay off everything. my family and i are truly, eternally grateful to every last one of you - especially here on dwrp, where i am basically an absolute nobody.
even if you couldn't donate, the fact you were willing to help me spread the word, even if you were a total stranger, meant the world to me. this has been an exhausting month but next week, we'll be able to lay our mother to rest. thank you all so much.
I'll see what I can do.