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Most of them, lalo na ‘yung traditional, hindi rin kasi based sa love ang relationships. Kaya ganyan na lang kung bitawan ang engagement. Haha.

Nakakalungkot lang talaga at ganyan...kababaw. 😬

actually, i thought about that too. i guess one can look at it that if the family you're getting into can't perform simple agreements, red flag na yun for them, kasi nga love less relationship sya sa start. you can only judge the other party by how they behave or live up to their word. not discounting how petty it really is, but yeah, yun lang naiisip ko

zerovoltage : ayun nga eh. Lalo na ‘yan at mas may lamang ang lalaki sa kanila. Talo ang babae dito.

I once criticised that tradition, how loveless it is and how bad I felt for people who can’t experience marital love as conventional society sees it (and that was bad) and I got flak because of it from my European friends here. They said it’s their culture and deeply embedded sa kanila ‘yan, tipong economics ang nakataya.

Ang hirap intindihin sa totoo lang at ang hirap iaccept that they can’t abolish that tradition in this modern age when most outdated societal customs are being frowned upon na because of their damaging repercussions sa mga taong napipilitan gawin ‘yan.

But I guess that’s what really works for them...well... for most of them who do end up being happy in their marriages. For the unfortunate ones, it’s hard to see and hear that they have to go through with it.

ricebeanbun: indeed. At the same time, we have to strive to see it the way they do as a sign of respect na rin. 😶

yeah, mahirap talaga maimagine pero mahirap din tanggalin kasi it's what works for them nga, part of their culture na. swertihan na lang sa makukuha