LiberBEARian
[rl] [family bs] whooo thanks MiL
LiberBEARian
I do love Cynthia but she lives in an isolated town in the middle of nowhere and sometimes doesn't get that we can't drop everything to come and hang out
LiberBEARian
May is the most packed month of my life atm. I've got two medical procedures scheduled (and time off for both), two covid tests I have to take before I go in 48 hours prior, a contractor coming to look at our windows, another one coming to install insulation, an HOA fighting with itself, and work to pay for all of this.
LiberBEARian
And in the middle of it is Sergio's birthday
LiberBEARian
Oh and both of our second vaccinations
LiberBEARian
So I wanted to do something special for him in the midst of all this garbage, so we were going to go into Boston and walk the Freedom Trail and the Black Heritage Trail
LiberBEARian
Which he was really excited for
LiberBEARian
Get a text from Cynthia
LiberBEARian
"Okay! So we should meet up for Sergio's birthday! because we're vaccinated and you're vaccinated and Sergio's grandmother is being watched by his aunt so we're free!"
LiberBEARian
and I'm just like
LiberBEARian
fuckkkk I really don't wanna but I'll defer to Sergio because it's his birthday
LiberBEARian
It seems a weird thing to complain about but Sergio and me really don't get to spend a lot of quality time just by ourselves and I was hoping to make the first post-vaccine outing special
Becky
nope, that's valid. Your mom lives with you. Your families are INVOLVED
Becky
time to yourselves needs to be a thing
LiberBEARian
Mmyep. We're literally newlyweds or whatever, this'll be the first time we're going out together and we'll be married six months
spooky queer
it’s ok to say no
spooky queer
repeat this mantra
spooky queer
“we already have plans but thanks”
LiberBEARian
Definitely. I'll touch base with Sergio, see if he wants to hang with his parents and then reply
Bifrostbbsitter
What
spooky queer
said. Offer to do something with them on a following weekend or something if you would feel better doing so, and just inform them that you two newlyweds are doing something special that day/weekend.
LiberBEARian
Yeah, unfortunately most weekends in May are booked up
LiberBEARian
because medical procedures and this was going to be the one time I could take him out just the two of us
LiberBEARian
But it's also his dad's birthday and mother's day which makes it fun/complicated
Bifrostbbsitter
So make it June! That's only 4 weekends away
LiberBEARian
Definitely yeah
LiberBEARian
OH
LiberBEARian
I know why I'm upset
Bifrostbbsitter
It doesn't sound like much when you count it like that
LiberBEARian
Because this will be the 4th time we will have made plans/arrangements only to have the parents cancel last minute
Bifrostbbsitter
LiberBEARian
I've seen Sergio get all excited to have his parents come to us and then last-minute cancelations because they got nervous or didn't want to drive or something
LiberBEARian
I've literally cleaned the house for them only to cancel a day before they show up
LiberBEARian
.-.
Bifrostbbsitter
Dammit, gah that's got to be rough on him!
spooky queer
also you already made plans you and him were excited about. perfectly valid reason to be upset
spooky queer
and also say no
HEROphelia
make plans to spend mother's day with them, instead? but plan it in such a way that if they bail, you're still doing something that the two of you will enjoy. like have them meet you someplace where you can still enjoy the day if they don't show up.
LiberBEARian
Yeah totes
LiberBEARian
hahahaha oh shit Sergio comes in!
LiberBEARian
"May might be tricky since there is a lot of surgery/medical stuff going on. Definitely would like to see you too but we have to look further to see when is best appropriate and hospital-free"
Ptriciadactyl
yay Sergio!
spooky queer
oh damn what a good response
spooky queer
points for sergio
Bifrostbbsitter
spooky queer
i'll add them to the points i took away for three lowes trips
LiberBEARian
hahahaha
LiberBEARian
glad we're all keeping tallis
LiberBEARian
*tallies
spooky queer
Jay
good husband