LiberBEARian
[rl] [mental health] hahaha oh no.
LiberBEARian
it never. ends.
LiberBEARian
I'm blaming this on actually rigorously taking my medication for the last month and a half plus cutting out soda completely from my diet but my mood has TANKED the last few days.
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Anyway.
LiberBEARian
I'm glad 20 years have passed because Mom and me can have the same conversation when I'm 32 as we had when I'm 12
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Me: I'm sad and depressed.
Mom: Why? What do you have to be depressed about?
Me: I don't think that's how it works
Mom: Well, I don't know what you expect me to do about it.
LiberBEARian
So I had a tough day at therapy today and broke down a lot about how I've stopped really. caring. about anything. Which is unusual for me
LiberBEARian
But I'm talking to my therapist going like "I'm finding myself struggling not to tell coworkers that I don't care when they come to problems I have fixed for them in the past. They're the kind you don't burn bridges with but I. Don't. Care."
LiberBEARian
"I know I WILL probably care later on but I don't care. I don't care that my mom is cold and wants to pay 15,000 for window repairs. I don't care about anything, and it's not suicidal. I just want to not. be. here. right now."
LiberBEARian
"I'm really good at faking it. This right here is real, but I just got out of a meeting with my boss and I made my voice really chipper and happy like this! and I can make it through the day! faking it!"
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:|
Ptriciadactyl
oof. This is so relatable
Ptriciadactyl
I'm sorry you're struggling with this, Allison, it's such a rough feeling.
LiberBEARian
<3 thanks. It just seems like it'll never end.
LiberBEARian
I was reading "How to Survive a Plague", which is about the AIDS epidemic, and it had this interesting passage about survivors of a pandemic and how they get consumed by the anxiety, even after most of the danger has passed, about never being able to go back to a happier time again
LiberBEARian
Anyway all this to say that I had asked Mom yesterday to take care of texts from my aunt Liz.
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Because I can't do another Thing on top of other THings
LiberBEARian
And to her credit, she did take over communication. Going like "No, please don't ask us to come over to see [cousins from Florida], we're busy and going through some rough patches, we're all set, have a good Easter, see you when we see you."
LiberBEARian
Get a text from my aunt liz
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"Is everything okay??? Your mom says that you're unavailable on Wednesday to meet [cousins]. I want to drop stuff off at your house tomorrow. Will you be home??"
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:|
chris ⛅
liz no
spooky queer
block her tbh
chris ⛅
I'm sorry you're going through this... this is definitely a big mood
spooky queer
or just turn off your phone
LiberBEARian
And I'm just going like "I'm so tired of always having to be near a computer or my phone. If I just left it behind and went somwhere it would be heaven. No one could reach me."
spooky queer
and faking it is def a coping mechanism
LiberBEARian
and I always have to bring my phone because the times I don't, I get lost or get in car accidents or some shit. :|
Ptriciadactyl
bring phone but TURNED OFF
spooky queer
^^^
LiberBEARian
Yeah that might be the best solution
𝕊𝕥𝕚𝕝𝕝ℝ𝕚𝕘𝕙𝕥ℍ𝕖𝕣𝕖
emotional and mental exhaustion are things, best Allison
spooky queer
seriously rent a place
spooky queer
have some you time
𝕊𝕥𝕚𝕝𝕝ℝ𝕚𝕘𝕙𝕥ℍ𝕖𝕣𝕖
it's not that you don't care, it's that all your care is already spent and you have none to spare, which is fair
spooky queer
^^^^
𝕊𝕥𝕚𝕝𝕝ℝ𝕚𝕘𝕙𝕥ℍ𝕖𝕣𝕖
save some of your care for you
فك يو
"save some of your care for you" is an excellent way of putting it
LiberBEARian
Yeah. It's tough, I'm back in class again and it goes late, and weekends are pretty much schoolwork booked. But I have a few hours between end of work and start of school tonight, I'm probably gonna go drive around a little
LiberBEARian
The weather's back to being miserable but I can probably sit in the car and read for a bit. Never thought I was affected by seasonal depression but it feels like something similar
Un(t)sundered
yeah, seconding that bit about "save some of your care for you"
Un(t)sundered
https://images.plurk.com/7m6snYqdQKDa8jJfu8uQmc.jpg this also feels relevant
LiberBEARian
Yeah. I'm just. Going through the motions now. Each day looks exactly the same and never-ending. The cat goes to the vet on Monday. Mom gets driven down for her second vaccine Wedneday. I have school 3 nights a week and do homework when I'm not at work-work.
spooky queer
weekend vacay will be good for your brain, trust me
garfs per min
garfs per min
frankie feeling better will help too, i imagine lol
garfs per min
its emotionally hard to have a sick pet lmdsmlmf
Cmdr.Crackers
i've felt so much the same lately. last week, it came to a head so bad that hubby and i booked a last min reservation to a hotel out of town because i just could not handle being in the house anymore knowing my parents might come asking for more favors.
Cmdr.Crackers
so we left. parents called, we were three hours away, couldn't help them. it was the healthiest thing i've done in months. i can absolutely recommend it.
Cmdr.Crackers
you need to take time to care for yourself too
skipthedemon
Burn out is real. And the amount of managing your mom and Sergio want to do hasn't been helping, I'm sure. hugs
Mad Larkin
I do think that one side effect of COVID going on for so long that you kind of get used to the general background anxiety and forget that it is, in fact, anxiety. I've been blindsided by stuff that shouldn't get me as worked up as it did and it definitely reminded me that I need to take time for myself
spooky queer
^^ definitely this
Shan-aconda
Oh yeah when I completely cut out soda I went through with drawl like headaches horrid moods and such
LiberBEARian
Yeah, all this pretty much. Thanks guys. I'm newly married but I know my anxiety tends to ramp up and make Sergio anxious until we're both a mess so I might just. go off by myself
Cmdr.Crackers
that's okay too. married people still need some time apart too. took me a little bit to understand that for myself, but totally true.
spooky queer
you def need some time that's just you
Cmdr.Crackers
i think what suuuucks about the pandemic for situations like this is the places you can go are more limited. like, this would be a great time to go to a library or cafe and sit but.... can't do it
𝔽𝕊𝕆𝕋𝕌𝕊𝕊𝕐
I hope you can carve out a little time to just get away even if it's a long drive or something. You're definitely not alone in this feeling, and it will have an "other side" to get to but that doesn't make it any less heavy and hard while it's crushing in on you now.
LiberBEARian
Definitely. Thanks guys.
Cmdr.Crackers
here for you any time <3
spooky queer
<3
LiberBEARian
<3
Mad Larkin
<3
bluecanary
you deserve good things you are great and depression is Fucking Tough to get out of
bluecanary
it's essentially a delusion which means it feels like the truest thing ever while you're in it even if you know it's not what you want
bluecanary
gently hug
LiberBEARian
Thanks Fire. At least I know when I'm in it and I keep going "it'll pass. It'll pass. You've been here before, it'll pass."
Megan
oh my god my parents are the EXACT SAME WAY I go "wow I think 2020 gave me more gray hairs from stress" and they're like "what do you have to be stressed about"
Megan
HAVE YOU SEEN THIS WORLD
Megan
(I don't even try with depression)
Jay
wtf, people... way to not be able to actually empathize with others, ESPECIALLY YOUR OWN KIDS >.<
Jay
I'm sorry you're dealing with this (and you too, corbieclook), that's just... so disappointing from the perspective of a parent
plurkishdelight
big ol metaphor
/big hugs
big ol metaphor
been having similar issues and am swinging out of it the past few days. part of it's just been sleeping and resting more. i'm lucking out that i'm getting some extra money so i can afford to do that
LiberBEARian
Thanks all. <3 mad appreciate everyone chiming in here.
LiberBEARian
Feeling a bit better but that could be dinner talking
spooky queer
it can help to talk about it, also
LiberBEARian
Definitely
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