he wanted to give his daughter a teachable moment but really didn't help her achieve it? like, a lot of kids learn best by watching someone else do something first
like the first stage (20min? whatever) of her guessing what the pieces do, and successfully telling him her conclusions but not being able to physically make it work, could have been the teachable moment, and then you show her how to open the can of beans
i'd also be less pissed if OP (who i was following on twitter bc he made the MBMBAM theme song!!) weren't such an insufferable condescending git about it in EVERY reply
he's just been doubling down and moving the goal posts
first it was "only 2 people disagree with me, and they suck, so you know they're objectively wrong, everybody else gets it"
now that thousands of people disagree: "oh, but none of them are my followers, so lol it's just a dumb separate corner of twitter, i don't care about them"
then when his ACTUAL FOLLOWERS and literally ONE OF HIS OWN FRIENDS disagree with him, he's still like "jk i still don't care"
and he keeps saying "everybody is overreacting; lunch is at noon, dinner is at 6pm. how often do YOU eat??"
but your daughter... didn't eat lunch....? SHE WAS EXPLICITLY HUNGRY AT THE START OF THIS EXERCISE, SO IT MUST HAVE BEEN EVEN LONGER THAN 6 HOURS WITHOUT FOOD? god i hate this man
In another reply he seems to think she'll look back on this moment fondly as "Dad taught me something!" and a bonding moment but no, she's going to remember "Dad made me feel stupid and let me go hungry all day"
๐ YEDONG...
: and he keeps saying nah he and his daughter are different, they always do learning like this, she enjoyed herself and people don't get it!!
What is really sending me here is having caught sight of a reply by a child therapist here being like "this is great and the people saying it's abusive are just projecting their own experience" like...
okay fair about projecting, maybe, like we don't KNOW that this guy does this all the damn time but also SIX HOURS OF INCREDIBLE FRUSTRATION is not a good way to teach anything to anyone!
Making her try to work out on her own how it works before just immediately showing her is valid. Making her strain for hours more when she mostly had it at that point is just cruel and entirely unnecessary.
Yeah, they need to have some opportunity to experiment with things and see on their own what works and doesn't, but he gave her that in the first fifteen minutes, at which point she mostly understood and he had identified the one piece she did not yet understand.
also idk if this guy is exaggerating about it being the only food in the house, but unless you're literally living in poverty, keep some fucking decent food in the house. you have a child, sir. we're in a pandemic.
Yeah I wouldn't be nearly as mad about it if there had been something else she was able and allowed to eat. Like I think you could get away with "no you can't have the treat in the can until you figure out the puzzle of the can" but this was "I guess neither of us is going to eat, then!"
I still think "figure out this thing you don't understand entirely on your own" is a terrible teaching method but that on its own doesn't constitute abusive behavior, just being a truly awful teacher.
Yeah, he's either admitting he doesn't make sure there's adequate food in the house (if that was literally all that was left) or that he was denying her a meal just to prove a point, not allowing her to make a sandwich or eat cereal or something
right and denying her a meal is... not the best incentive or best way to help someone to solve a complicated problem!!!! especially if she's having increasing trouble BECAUSE of said hunger (the tweet where he describes her saying her brain was fuzzy and she couldn't think straight; fuck him)
like the first stage (20min? whatever) of her guessing what the pieces do, and successfully telling him her conclusions but not being able to physically make it work, could have been the teachable moment, and then you show her how to open the can of beans
he's just been doubling down and moving the goal posts
first it was "only 2 people disagree with me, and they suck, so you know they're objectively wrong, everybody else gets it"
then when his ACTUAL FOLLOWERS and literally ONE OF HIS OWN FRIENDS disagree with him, he's still like "jk i still don't care"
but your daughter... didn't eat lunch....? SHE WAS EXPLICITLY HUNGRY AT THE START OF THIS EXERCISE, SO IT MUST HAVE BEEN EVEN LONGER THAN 6 HOURS WITHOUT FOOD? god i hate this man
sorry done venting now
but lol i have my doubts ๐