I’m exhausted. My brother is still rummaging through the house. He wants to come do this three times a week. If he does that I won’t be able to do what I need to do. I can’t keep balance between activity and rest that way. I’ll agree to once a week, but no more.

I may have to call the estate lawyer and sort this out.

He is not accepting my disabilities, he outright denies it. He resents me asking him to break down boxes for me, thinking that if it’s easy for him it must be easy for me.

Also, he has a wife, so there are essentially 2 people to do what I have to do alone

When he goes home today he goes to a clean house and a meal prepared for him.

He has all kinds of grievances from more than 20 years ago. He didn’t like it that I wanted a birthday celebration (I haven’t had a birthday celebration in years, if not decades). He said I was upset when he took one of Mom’s paintings. I don’t recall being upset, but that was more than 20 years ago. It’s just too bizarre.

For the last six or so years I’ve dreaded his visits and phone calls because he screams at me.

He settled down towards the end, and isn’t insisting on coming on Wednesday. We’ll see how things go.

I'm so sorry. You may have to change the locks.

mimi : He’s the executor; I’d have to ask a lawyer about that. He doesn’t want to take into consideration that I’ve lived here for 34 years and this is my home.

Ask your lawyer if you can have someone else present, to whiteness his behavior (if he will do it in front of them) at least it would help you avoid his bad behavior.

say, Grace#🟦 : That’s a possibility. I’ve been recording some of our conversations, just in case. We have one person consent here, so that’s kosher.

The problem is that people tend to take his side. He’s a tall, good looking male.

Darn it, my nerve damage is acting up. My hands are vibrating.

You need a 3rd party dis-interested individual. I wonder if someone from the attorney’s office could come by. He’s supposed to look out for both of you

say, Grace#🟦 : I’ve thought of getting mediation. I’ve actually suggested family counseling for years. I really want to move and have a life of sorts.

heylisa :