mental health: I suspect i have rejection sensitivity. on the one hand I fit a lot of the symptoms for the anxiety based one but on the other hand it seems closely linked with adhd so maybe not.

either way rejection terrifies me to a point where I rather not ask for things.

I don't think it has to just be an adhd thing?

but also I haven't done a lot of research either

one example is dealing with my dad and brother. my brother can be quite harsh with his jokes and I often find them hurtful. once I asked him to not do it and got told I am thin skinned so now I just pretend not to care.

Un(t)sundered : I am not sure. most of what I find online is in relation to adhd

/nodnod

thats a dick thing for him to say tbh and it sucks to have this i am sorry friend

I suspect that's probably the most common place for it to manifest? but either way what you're feeling is legit and also that was a really shitty thing for him to say

um... fuck your brother. Even if you're 'thin-skinned' he should care about not hurting you more than getting to make his jokes

my mom said that I was the nicest person in the family. too nice actually and that I need to stand up for what I need and want and just the thought scares me. like asking what I need to do to change from junior consultant to senior at work

/hugs

I suspect the reason he said that is more about him being uncomfortable with the idea of having hurt me, so it is easier to make it be that there is something wrong with me.

it affects me online as well. it has taken me a long time to get comfortable asking for scenes I want. it even affects things like asking for or accepting help in guild wars

I think it is the root of my depression

I love your brother but he has problems with being wrong.

as in accepting when he's wrong

that is a dick move on your brother's part, but it's surprisingly common to answer "could you not do this thing that bothers me" with "no, stop being bothered" and that definitely makes rejection sensitivty (diagnosable or just as an experience that kinda syncs) more of a burden