LiberBEARian
[family bullshit] [uspol] In which Mom and me discuss racial bias in an actually constructive way
LiberBEARian
We were on the couch watching tv
LiberBEARian
Mom being like
LiberBEARian
"You know how I watch the neighbors sometimes?"
LiberBEARian
Me: Yeah.
LiberBEARian
Mom: There are mostly mixed race and black families next door in the apartment buildings and there are two other guys who go out to smoke too. I see them sometimes and we nod to each other
LiberBEARian
Me: Mmn
LiberBEARian
Mom: I just wanna go up to them and go "Are you okay?"
LiberBEARian
Me: For...?
LiberBEARian
Mom: Jesus, I see these things on the news and I just wanna. I don't know. Ask if I can do anything or check up on the neighbors and go "I'm white but I wanna do stuff to help you out."
LiberBEARian
Me: That's better than a lot of people. Proud of you, mom. We're just like. Consciously trying to fight against unconscious bias here, especially on a personal level. Like, racism isn't born with you, they did a bunch of studies with kids and everything. I was definitely much less prejudiced than I am now, I think. I have to be constantly evaluating my brain
LiberBEARian
Mom: Same.
LiberBEARian
Mom: There's this guy in the park and he's black. And he was wandering back and forth and I was watching him. Come to find out, he's fucking exercising.
LiberBEARian
Me: No shit?
LiberBEARian
Mom: Yeah he's walking up and down and doing steps and cardio and I'm like. Feeling like a creep watching him.
LiberBEARian
Me: You watch everyone. But yeah
LiberBEARian
Mom: And I'm worried that I'm racist
LiberBEARian
Me: Same with me sometimes. I think we're not overtly racist but we have a lot of privilege and where both of us grew up, it was extremely segregated so we weren't exposed to other people who weren't white. Part of the reason I liked this neighborhood was because I knew it was a mixed one and my kids would grow up around people with different culters
LiberBEARian
*cultures
LiberBEARian
Mom: How do we stop being prejudiced?
LiberBEARian
Me: Practice, I guess. Reevaluate ourselves every time we make judgement calls - start expanding the social circle to include people who you get along with through shared hobbies but who might not be white or something.
LiberBEARian
Mom: Not right now thought. With the pandemic.
LiberBEARian
Me: Yeah.
LiberBEARian
Google, how do I stop unconscious bias.
spooky queer
she could start by not watching her neighbors constantly >>
Mouth Powers
the number one way to reduce implicit/subconscious bias is to get to know other people in the relevant groups, and best of all if you can do non-hierarchical teamwork with them
LiberBEARian
Yeah, she's getting better at that, she knows I don't like it
Mouth Powers
but in the time of corona, perhaps start with some autobiographies
spooky queer
and that too
spooky queer
oh yes
LiberBEARian
Oh yeah that might be good. We both like reading and mom loves biographical stuff
Mouth Powers
my company just made us all do a training on this
spooky queer
you could have a house book club
LiberBEARian
ooh.
spooky queer
just google like, black autobiography reading lists
Mouth Powers
Mouth Powers
if you want Starting Data lol
spooky queer
also i can see what i have in my bookcase from the african lit class i took, which was great
Mouth Powers
they use reaction times and sorting tasks to figure out how strongly you associate two things, like "women and homemaking" or "black people and weapons"
Mouth Powers
your mom might uhhh not be at the stage of confronting that head on but you might find it interesting
LiberBEARian
I was going to take her to the Hearing Room. It's a piano bar that she'd like a lot featuring a lot of different artists from all over
LiberBEARian
Yeah. I think today was an important step where she realized that racism was not restricted just to assholes.
spooky queer
yes that's good
LiberBEARian
I'm really bummed because the Lowell Folk Festival was canceled this year for obvious public safety reasons but it has so much cool shit from all over too
spooky queer
;;
LiberBEARian
Mouth Powers : sweet thanks
LiberBEARian
yeah the best part was that they had all these different food stands with the country names on them so you could go around and meet people and eat the food from their home countries
Luke Skywanker
That sounds like a really healthy conversation.
spooky queer
that's neat
LiberBEARian
It was tiring but good.
Hooded Figure
Hyatt
why am I just hearing about the Lowell Folk Festival now
LiberBEARian
dude! you have to come next year!
LiberBEARian
I didn't know about it either, Sergio found it before we moved here
titantoadstools
thank you for the link
Luke Skywanker
Whoops didn't mean to hit replurk lol.
載入新的回覆