Bio-father called tonight it was an hour before he asked how we were. He let us talk for maybe 10 minutes before he turned it back to himself. I bet he couldn't tell you anything about me or my life. More below.

He actually said that he thought I'd cut my nails to come sort and move his things from storage to his apartment. In Tuscon, Arizona. I live in Michigan...

whaaaat?

We said we had to get a new car and he didn't ask why, what we got, or anything about it just went into a story about how it took him 2 days to replace a battery in one of his cars

ugh. I am so sorry Sanu

I wonder if it's because the relationship is new and he still feel awkward.

and it kinda felt like he was mocking that we had our old car for 10 years. He said only 10 years? and kinda laughed

he tried to parent me about not having a driver's license. And he talks down to us like we're stupid.

Oh and the total phone call was an hour and a half.

he complained about everything under the sun. bragged about how much money he makes at his part time job. I wanted to tell him I am NOT his therapist.

He sounds like he might be a narcisist

This is pretty much anytime I've talked to him.

he says he thinks he has aspergers but when I said it was a spectrum he didn't understand what I meant.

yeah. still gonna say Narc

just corvi : that's my feeling on it as well. At one point in the conversation I thought "Its his world we are just living in it"

Mr. Paw and I discussed it and laughed so hard.

I bet. At least you see it

afterwards. me doing manual labor

me cutting my nails

It better be serious for me to cut my nails, like end of the world shit.

I might cut one for surgery. But only one otherwise they can use my toes. lmao

Wow, sounds like a lovely person to have around

Sounds really uncomfortable, and I can't imagine anyone wanting you to cut your nails for something like that. They're gorgeous!!

DawnTokyoska : and they take a lot to maintain I'm not losing all my work for something I don't even want to do.

I doubt he knows how many pets I have or even one of their names. Or a single interest of mine. He knows nothing about me and hasn't tried to either.

Andel Rhiadra : I've given him more than enough benefit of doubt. He has not tried to get to know me at all. Anytime I give the barest start of information he turns it around to a story about himself.

he also tried to push me off onto his wife, the chick that's like his daughter, his sister. because in his words I'll get to know him through them. and I was expected to put forth the effort.

This sounds so much like my mother, who is a narcissist. I’m so sorry. Honestly you are better off with people who want to know you and care about you for you and not what you can do for them.

Gracie : yeah part of me is regretting the contact. I'm sorry your Mom is this way also.

I’m sorry Sanura. I don’t think you should regret making contact, I think it’s a good thing that you made the steps to do that. At least now you know for yourself who he is and what he’s like. But if it’s not a good relationship, if you don’t get anything from it, then don’t put yourself through having to force something that’s not good for you

^^^

Yes, what Boo said.

You got what you needed out of the contact. You got your medical history which was what you were really wanting the most out of all of this. Take that and drop the rope with him. You have done great without him in your life.

I’m glad you can laugh over it. Take the calls put the phone down every now and then say Wow, Interesting, Can’t believe that.... all while going about your business. Probably a better conversation then.

just corvi : I really didn't get any sort of meaningful health information tbh.

I not gonna just write him off just limit the contact. Mr. Paw and I discussed it we made some plans to end calls
easier.