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@hardtoport

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 4:36 PM

How do u date

sᴏғᴛ ɢɪʀʟɪᴇ🌵

@hardtoport

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 4:36 PM

Not that I'm looking to

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@hardtoport

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 4:37 PM

I just realised I've been single through my entire 20s and I don't think I've ever dated

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@hardtoport

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 4:37 PM

idk how you do it

@otteratplay

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 4:37 PM

I'm in my mid-30s and I've never dated. Just... a thing

@otteratplay

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 4:37 PM

Like, whatever, if I want to, I'll do it /shrug

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@hardtoport

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 4:37 PM

ωαℓєω∂єя 👑

@ZornSable

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 4:42 PM

Do you mean like, just going on dates, or like... being in a relationship with someone?

@Skree

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 4:44 PM

https://imgs.plurk.com/Qwz/gQs/alLDVx4elF9k9BUH5Crb5HuwEh2_lg.gif

𝔂𝓾𝓶𝓲

@Yzaksama

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 4:49 PM

I am 28 and I have never dated either. So if someone knows I would be glad if they could share it here.

𝔂𝓾𝓶𝓲

@Yzaksama

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 4:49 PM

ωαℓєω∂єя 👑 : For me it's YES

ᴏᴋᴀʀᴜɴ 👾

@guessmonster

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 4:50 PM

Same

❥𝓶𝓲𝓬𝓪.

@caffemisto

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 4:51 PM

I have never really dated. I just sort of run into friends of friends and we move in together a few weeks later???

𝔂𝓾𝓶𝓲

@Yzaksama

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 4:54 PM

❥𝓶𝓲𝓬𝓪. : magic

❥𝓶𝓲𝓬𝓪.

@caffemisto

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 4:55 PM

lmao

𝒹𝓊𝓀𝑒

@cantito

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 4:55 PM

basically you hang out 1-on-1 and the other person says "do you want to date?" and voila ur dating

❥𝓶𝓲𝓬𝓪.

@caffemisto

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 4:57 PM

Yeah I went on a trip to the other side of the country to hang with a friend and met her roommate there and now 8.5 years later said roommate and I have a 3 year old basset hound and a joint bank account.

@radically

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 5:02 PM

a mystery

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@hardtoport

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 5:03 PM

ωαℓєω∂єя 👑 : both tbh

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@hardtoport

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 5:04 PM

𝒹𝓊𝓀𝑒 : but how do u actually date. How do u do a date.

ωαℓєω∂єя 👑

@ZornSable

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 5:04 PM

Tbh I've never done the whole stereotypical dating thing? Like going on dates to get to know someone. I've always had friendships that blossomed into something more.

ωαℓєω∂єя 👑

@ZornSable

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 5:05 PM

Like I knew my husband for 5 years before we dated, and then married. Otherwise when we go on dates we honestly are just hanging and getting food its whatever you want it to be

𝔂𝓾𝓶𝓲

@Yzaksama

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 5:07 PM

❥𝓶𝓲𝓬𝓪. : truly magic

𝔂𝓾𝓶𝓲

@Yzaksama

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 5:07 PM

ωαℓєω∂єя 👑 : you are living the dream

𝔞𝔰𝔥 𝔞𝔫𝔡 𝔱𝔥𝔬𝔯𝔫

@ashfae

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 5:10 PM

I kinda skipped dating. And then eventually found someone I really liked and headbutted them.

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@ashfae

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 5:10 PM

Astonishingly this worked so my conclusion is that dating is BS.

ωαℓєω∂єя 👑

@ZornSable

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 5:12 PM

Dating is weird and usually completely unnecessary imo. Like, the whole thing is a really awkward set up that I feel doesn't help anyone actually get to know the person.

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@ashfae

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 5:13 PM

yeah, seriously.

𝔞𝔰𝔥 𝔞𝔫𝔡 𝔱𝔥𝔬𝔯𝔫

@ashfae

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 5:13 PM

If there's someone you like, invite them to do something fun. Something you both find fun. Because honestly what's the point of dating/being with someone if you don't enjoy their company?

𝔞𝔰𝔥 𝔞𝔫𝔡 𝔱𝔥𝔬𝔯𝔫

@ashfae

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 5:14 PM

Also one thing I wish I'd figured out when I was younger is that I was always so terrified of asking people out, and I did always get turned down (until the headbutt), but the people I asked were always really flattered and often became friends, so rejection just...wasn't as awful as it was in my head.

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@ashfae

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 5:15 PM

If someone is going to reject you in a humiliating fashion, they're an ass and you don't want them anyway. If they're decent, they'll at least be happy to know someone thought of them like that even if they don't share the interest.

𝔞𝔰𝔥 𝔞𝔫𝔡 𝔱𝔥𝔬𝔯𝔫

@ashfae

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 5:15 PM

So yeah, go for it, headbutt evreryone.

@TaoEmpress

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 5:16 PM

Sparingly?

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@hardtoport

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 5:19 PM

𝔞𝔰𝔥 𝔞𝔫𝔡 𝔱𝔥𝔬𝔯𝔫 : was this a literal headbutt

@pushkingram

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 5:33 PM

Depends what you mean by "dating". Its just spending time with someone isn't it. Either doing something together, like going out to a restaurant or cinema or just hanging out together watching TV with wine and pizza.

@pushkingram

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 5:33 PM

It is whatever you want it to be

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@hardtoport

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 5:34 PM

Agent Dad : oh I guess that's why I don't do it v:

@reineke

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 6:07 PM

yeah, like, if you are my fiancee and me it is stuff like watching the Cats musical DVD three times in a row, analysing the trailer for the movie frame by frame and doing some tags x)

@reineke

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 6:09 PM

honestly, in my case being with my partner means being with my best friend and having a great time, just sometimes we kiss and stuff

@reineke

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 6:09 PM

so, there is a romantic comp

@reineke

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 6:10 PM

component to how we feel about each other and some interactions, but WHAT we do otherwise isn't any specific 'dating' activity

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@hardtoport

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 6:14 PM

reineke : it's funny it all sounds real nice until I'm like 'oh wait I'll have to actually spend time with this person' and then it's just

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@hardtoport

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 6:15 PM

ah. no. no thank you.

@reineke

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 6:19 PM

yeah, I get that, I was similar to that and my fiancee even more so, I still can't imagine it with anyone else... so I don't wanna be the person to say: "You just have to meet the right person." but I do think that for some people, if they meet the right person, it really is different

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@Yzaksama

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 6:51 PM

♡ to everyone here.

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@Yzaksama

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 6:52 PM

I really want to be in a relationship but I also am like "But I have to actually spend a lot of time with them" and that is kinda weird.

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@ashfae

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 8:44 PM

it was a literal headbutt.

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@ashfae

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 8:44 PM

the moment had clearly arrived for me to ask him out, but I couldn't think what to say, so I headbutted him in helpless adoring frustration.

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@ashfae

Fri, Jul 19, 2019 8:44 PM

fortunately he was in a similar state and knew exactly what it meant.

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@Yzaksama

Sat, Jul 20, 2019 8:41 AM

fffffff omg

@crystalshard

Sun, Jul 21, 2019 6:05 PM

If it helps, when you find the right one you want to spend time with them.

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@hardtoport

Sun, Jul 21, 2019 6:06 PM

YouKnowWhoIAm : sort of. I just can't imagine liking anyone so much that I don't prefer to be by myself.

@crystalshard

Sun, Jul 21, 2019 6:07 PM

Yeah, I know that feeling. "Come here and cuddle me, thank you, now go away."

@crystalshard

Sun, Jul 21, 2019 6:07 PM

My first boyfriend, I met at college. My second, at a hobby group. My third, at a work dinner. My fourth, when I sat next to him on a plane.

sᴏғᴛ ɢɪʀʟɪᴇ🌵

@hardtoport

Sun, Jul 21, 2019 6:07 PM

sᴏғᴛ ɢɪʀʟɪᴇ🌵

@hardtoport

Sun, Jul 21, 2019 6:08 PM

I'm very territorial and its got worse as I've got older. If I want to be alone I need no one to be in the house. Not just in another room.

@crystalshard

Sun, Jul 21, 2019 6:08 PM

Once you have a partner, dating is basically doing fun tourist stuff together. Spending time with each other doing things you find enjoyable.

ƒιιɴᴅιsʜ

@hardtostarboard

Sun, Jul 21, 2019 6:09 PM

Yeahhh doesn't sound appealing.

ƒιιɴᴅιsʜ

@hardtostarboard

Sun, Jul 21, 2019 6:10 PM

It's just one of those where sometimes it sounds nice and then I think about it and realise I hate pretty much everything about being in a relationship.

ƒιιɴᴅιsʜ

@hardtostarboard

Sun, Jul 21, 2019 6:10 PM

Which is why I've been single for 10 years.

@crystalshard

Sun, Jul 21, 2019 6:11 PM

In that case, I recommend cats.

ƒιιɴᴅιsʜ

@hardtostarboard

Sun, Jul 21, 2019 6:13 PM

THAT'S THE PLAN

𝔞𝔰𝔥 𝔞𝔫𝔡 𝔱𝔥𝔬𝔯𝔫

@ashfae

Sun, Jul 21, 2019 9:36 PM

IT'S A GOOD PLAN

𝔞𝔰𝔥 𝔞𝔫𝔡 𝔱𝔥𝔬𝔯𝔫

@ashfae

Sun, Jul 21, 2019 9:36 PM

seriously being in a relationship is not at all obligatory

ƒιιɴᴅιsʜ

@hardtostarboard

Sun, Jul 21, 2019 9:36 PM

𝔞𝔰𝔥 𝔞𝔫𝔡 𝔱𝔥𝔬𝔯𝔫 : Oh, I know. It just feels like sometimes it might be 'nice'.

ƒιιɴᴅιsʜ

@hardtostarboard

Sun, Jul 21, 2019 9:36 PM

Then I remember I'd probably hate it.

𝔞𝔰𝔥 𝔞𝔫𝔡 𝔱𝔥𝔬𝔯𝔫

@ashfae

Sun, Jul 21, 2019 9:36 PM

or relationships where you meet up and cuddle sometimes but mostly just talk long-distance because being alone is also awesome

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@ashfae

Sun, Jul 21, 2019 9:37 PM

all fair!

@crystalshard

Sun, Jul 21, 2019 9:56 PM

ideal partner: lives next door and is available for cuddles or occasional computer/board games.

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@ashfae

Sun, Jul 21, 2019 10:13 PM

honestly that sounds pretty great

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