that moment when you have to deal with a well-meaning straight guy friend attempt to mansplain your own life decisions to you.

well basically this guy messaged me on a follow-up i made the last time we hung out

responding to me declaring that i'm not going to finish my MA at ADMU

he was all "how are you feeling" so i was like "fine tbh"

AND THEN SUDDENLY HE GOES "well, i don't think you were a fit for the academe anyway!"

and i just...

#triggered

cos this guy is an old colleague of mine who is, quite frankly, not as experienced as i am in ANY ACADEMIC THING from teaching to writing papers to going to conferences so

what the actual fuck???? where is this coming from????

so i eventually admitted to being irked by what he was saying AND HE GOES "i'm sorry, you just never looked happy in teaching" like what the fuck x 2?????

WAY TO CRITICALLY FAIL EMPATHY/INSIGHT CHECKS????

gonna tag revengeance here cos OMG I NEED TO SHARE THIS SALT

yikes

spooky queer : i put him down as solidly and non-bitingly as i could, because it struck me as ridiculous that he could make such assessments especially since he is nowhere near as experienced as i am in... well, anything.

nearly bit his head off after he persisted cos i think he is trying to be the knight in shining armor again - which is a bad habit of his

good

and those traits tend to to hand in hand

y e p

ahahaha, he feels that he knows you better than you know yourself. of course

o f c

Lmao imma message u