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[fambily; my sister] SO Heather posted this to ye olde Face Booke 
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And my qualm with this
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that the very first claim is totally undercut by the fact that there's a photo of the homeless guy here, and the 175 likes attached to said post.
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It's a different variety of the poverty porn that infected her 10-day mission trip to India to help the people there.
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In that the observation of poverty and the "I helped this person who lives nowhere near me one single time and that's just so inspiring"
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Sort of attitude that comes packaged along with this.
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I would feel somewhat less offended by this if it didn't come with a photo of the homeless man.
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Because now he's a literal prop.
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Yes, it is nice that they bought him lunch. It's a good thing. But now this guy, probably without his knowledge because evidently he doesn't speak English is a public sermon illustration.
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And catalyst for a good deal of "wow way to go!" sort of asspat comments.
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But how will people know how humble and selfless she is if she doesn't make a big neon flashing sign saying so?
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Um, it's a tasteful hand-painted artisanal sign, thank you.
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"Look at me help this man, who has no idea he was used as a way to prove someone is Super Great"
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But look it says it's posted not for attention, so.
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She graduated from her Very Rigorous MA in Youth Ministry program. So now she's got an MA.
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I question a lot about this program.
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the worst part is there probably is a way to do this in a like, publicly praising your husband for being good kind of way
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that isn't quite as awful and is more like
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wow he surprised me and i'm proud of him
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Hahaha well it is Rodrigo. She feels compelled to "lift him up" because that's what her job as a wife is, supporting her husband.
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Meanwhile, he's emotionally abusive towards her.
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oh B(
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h a h a h a
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To analyze this a bit
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Rodrigo helping this guy out does not threaten his position. It's the same as when he works as a minimum security prison guard, or when he has done other work (he used to do a lot of things with a soup kitchen, I know).
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There's a clear power differential here.
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However. The one time he was helping at the soup kitchen and he was doing his usual Jesus talk and one of the people was a Muslim and didn't just let it wash over her but occasionally said things in response
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He took it poorly. He took the pains to point out how ill-informed this person was when he was recounting the story.
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I have no idea how this conversation went. But I'm willing to bet it was less... Rodrigo Good, Muslim Ignorant than he presented it.
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The same dynamic is at work in his marriage with my sister.
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He doesn't know how to treat her as an equal.
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Which ends up turning into him mocking her in front of her family (hahaha) and just... making major relationship and life decisions without consulting her, or completely against her wishes.
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Like. They bought a house. The wallpaper in one room is all weird and Victorian. I like it. She likes it. She said so.
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There's a built-in corner hutch in one room on the first floor. No idea how old it is. It's useful and interesting. She liked it. I liked it.
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Rodrigo went in after the hutch and ripped it off the wall one night.
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And the wallpaper is gone.
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I'm still bitter about him telling her that the frying pans she asked for for Christmas from myself and her other sister were the wrong color and she'd have to take them back, because they didn't match.
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60 seconds after she'd opened them.
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In front of myself, my parents, and her twin sister.
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So, this post above has two functions.
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1. It's a LOOK AT ME.
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2. It's a Look at how great my husband is!
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ugh with all that in mind it makes me wonder if she didn't even want to write or maybe never actually wrote it herself
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No, she wrote it
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I recognize her writing style
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wanting to write it, well
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She considers it her Duty as a wife to support her husband
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and that this is all some sort of test from God.
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Which I think is a load of bull.
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Yeah that's a lot of mental gymnastics