You know what fucking sucks? You marry a guy, become a good part of his family, and even 10 years later, your brother-in-law specifically asks to have you excluded from family matters.

What happened? And that's a dick move.

He's gone out of his way to specify that I not be a part of discussions on their mom's health even though I have more experience with/knowledge of shitty family health than both of them combined.

I thought I was like a sister to him and like a daughter to my mother-in-law but this is really making me wonder.

I think it's because it was just the three of them for 20 years that he's closing ranks due to stress. It just sucks since the focus should be on their mom but my feelings are still hurt.

Yeah I get that. The way Andys family was like "oh we still love you" and then cut me out was a slap in the face.

that truly does suck.

Pretty sure my in-laws are not big fans of me.

I'm sorry sweetie; that is crappy of them.

That definitely happened to my mom, and I'm so sorry. You are family.

I'm sorry, sweetie /loves on

wow, I'm sorry. To me, you're either family or you're not, and you should be family. Although my m-i-l does things all the time without telling us. Remember when she got divorced and we found out by text afterwards?