Bard of Blood
so i'm single again
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when bf started pulling the "i can't be racist because i'm gay" card i was out
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normally i don't whine about things like this on here, but i'm just not sure where else to do it
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i thought he was a better person than that
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he seemed so kind and loving
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but only to other white people i guess
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in retrospect, the fact that he's never dated a black guy should've been a red flag
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granted, i didn't know that until recently
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racists are good at hiding their racism
purkle archer
I'm so confused how he thought the one meant he couldn't be the other
Bard of Blood
well, see... he's oppressed!
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so he can't be an oppressor, that's just silly
duck bastard
oh oof
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i think he's one of those guys who thinks that just because he isn't out beating black people, harassing them, or discriminating against them it makes him a good guy
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but if you vote for oppressive people and oppressive policies that's still racism
duck bastard
Yeah, and there are a lot of other subtle kinds of racism, a lot which you might not think about until you really do some serious introspection and questioning
duck bastard
but that means being willing to admit something very unpleasant and nasty about yourself
Bard of Blood
yeah, really all anyone has to do to enable racism is not speak out against it. just stay with the status quo
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and he's far too comfortable with that. he doesn't question it
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he doesn't like anyone who does question it
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and there we have a problem, because i'm a very big supporter of BLM
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he thinks they promoting violence and divisiveness
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i don't know how many times i've tried to explain that that's not the case, but he still doesn't get it
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and then he gets all "well, how come they're not supporting gay people?"
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bullshit they're not
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have you read their platform?
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no you haven't
duck bastard
oooooh my god
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because you're too busy reading news stories that portray them as a bunch of violent thugs
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i guess that "reality" is a lot more comfortable to him
duck bastard
They called MLK a thug too 8/
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yeah
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he was going on the other night about the black panthers promoting violence
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and it's frustrating, because you can't tell him he's wrong
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he was a history major, so he knows everything
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yeah, they were voilent at times, but they did a lot of good too
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they had some great programs
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they're not the villains people make them out to be
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certainly not the villains history makes them out to be
duck bastard
that just makes it more annoying
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*white history
duck bastard
because as a history major, he is EQUIPPED on an academic level to look into how screwed over disenfranchised groups were
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because let's be clear, there is very much a deficiency of different viewpoints in history, which i'm sure he prefers to be blissfully unaware of
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duck bastard
: oh, but that's all in the past!
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slavery was over a long time ago and he had nothing to do with it
duck bastard
let me fight your ex
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and i don't get how he doesn't see the modern-day parallels
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duck bastard
: i would, but honestly? I doubt he would listen
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he wouldn't even listen to me
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definitely won't listen to anyone whose skin is darker than his
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i think he has a habit of talking over people, which is sad really
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if he just stopped to listen he could be a more compassionate person
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but he's too wrapped up in his own wolrdview
duck bastard
let it be noted when I say "fight", I mean "cage match" 
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haha
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no doubt you would win
duck bastard
I am fueled by feathery rage
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I'm extremely and profoundly disappointed.
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I don't understand for the life of me how some people can just stick their heads in the sand and not care fo other human beings.
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as though supporting someone else takes something away from them
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and I know he was a poor, picked on little gay boy, but come on
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you're an adult now and no one is out to get you
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except Republicans
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and Mike Pence
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okay, maybe a lot of people are out to get you, but not the blacks
Calliente
I am also newly single, I can be your designated driver and you can drink for the both of us
plant jesus
I'm sorry he turned out to be an asshole.
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Calliente
: thanks
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plant jesus
: I'm pretty sure that the only reason I didn't recognize it sooner is because all the other racists in my life have been more obvious about it. So it could've been worse, I guess.
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At least I know what to avoid next time.
plant jesus
Yeah. :/ Sadly, some of the most lowkey bigoted people I've ever met have been white cis gay men. Everything's a mine field.
Calliente
And the whole "if I am oppressed in any way that means I cannot possibly be problematic in any way myself" mindset is pretty common, too
Calliente
But actually, I think being oppressed in one way actually may make you more likely to throw other, more oppressed groups under the bus in a bid for acceptance...
Calliente
Which is the same principle behind how I, having been bullied for most of my school life, wound up mocking and bullying a kid through the eighth grade because other people found it funny and suddenly I was accepted and NOT the target of harassment for once
Calliente
It was a shitty thing for me to do that I absolutely should have known better than to do to someone else, because I had been through it, but I wanted acceptance so badly and was so relieved to be accepted that I wasn't analyzing the actions I was taking to earn that acceptance at all
Calliente
I feel like a lot of the reason white cis gay men often wind up being racist or transphobic or sexist is for the same reasons, because those are common problems in the queer community :|a
Bard of Blood
Yeah, pretty much.
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I think there's some internalized homophobia going on with him too, because he has this attitude that's like...
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When the orlando shooting happened? He went on a rant about how we "shouldn't politicize it".
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I was shocked of course, because dude... how do you not realize that you're speaking against your own community?
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I think it says something about him that he feels safest and more included/equal when his identity is erased and denied.
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He's always worried about trying to fit in, to the point where it makes me uncomfortable.
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He's talk bad about himself, post a bunch of porn on his tumblr. All skinny white twinks with no personality or diversity whatsoever.
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Like, his idea of male beauty is marginalizing to a wide variety of people, including himself. Why does he surround himself with such bullshit?
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I think he has some serious issues that I can't do a damn thing about, sadly.
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I've tried.
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He wants to be this perfect person so bad
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that he just can't be happy with himself.
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But what the world wants from him isn't right.
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I don't understand why he just submits to social norms instead of fighting against them.
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I guess maybe he feel safer that way.
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And I don't blame people for wanting to protect themselves, but...
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when that comes at the cost of other people suffering just so you can be comfortbale?
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NO
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*comfortable
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bluh
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Anyway, it's just sort of heartbreaking, because I love him and let him into my life and made him part of my family.
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I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him.
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And now I can't.
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Now that I know why he says those things I just can't stand to be near him anymore.
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I mean, ignorance is one thing. You can't support a viewpoint you've never been exposed to.
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But willful ignorance is another. I've exposed him plenty.
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And if you choose to bury your head in the sand while other poeple suffer, then sorry.
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I don't want that in my life.
duck bastard
plant jesus
For what it's worth, I'm hella proud of you for this.
Bard of Blood
thanks
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