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ahahahaHAHAHhahH... i just started trying to converse with a friend and apparently i've just been irritating him by talking about a topic and he went off on me and wow well
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i sure do love this crippling feeling of being an annoyance
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: )
rat334
If he can't express "hey can we not talk about XXXX" like an adult, fuck his noise. We're grown ups. You don't go off on people about talking about things unless they're not listening to requests to stop.
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like, he apparently thought it was obvious that i should process this even though we only have chats in a group chat like once a week
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and i know he's super busy so his workdays blur together like this
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but i'm just like
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[falls apart]
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even though i understand where he's coming from and don't feel like i can expect myself to have been in line there
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i still feel awful
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and i feel even more awful that he didn't apologize for his reaction
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which is just like
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i like him a lot but i'm also just like
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when i stop feeling bad about this i might just hate you
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i love being bipolar
fig30
said friend on plurk?
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it's so great
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nah, discord only rn
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else i'd be worried about posting this
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i don't feel like throwing obvious salt in their face over this
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i just apologized for not realizing i was bothering him and noped out
rat334
the thing is, he's allowed to feel however he wants, just like you are. But how a person reacts is entirely in their control, and he reacted poorly. Give him time, but if it makes things awkward later, maybe
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make a point of talking to him specifically about it.
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i'm just not looking forward to when my sad feels burn out and i'm just like 
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like, "I'm sorry that I said things that upset you. It wasn't my intention. Please, before you get that upset with me in the future, tell me that you don't want to go into a topic. No one benefits from a
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situation like what happened."
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yeah, that's basically the discussion we had before i noped
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but... i also want an apology from him
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he was so unapologetic my mood took a straight up nosedive
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i understand snap reactions but at least polite people apologize for their snap feels
rat334
Give him time, anon. Maybe he needs to calm down and gather himself, and will apologize in a while.
lion318
yeah give him some time to chill a bit and then approach him to say "hey, i understand your feelings but the way you expressed them made me feel really upset"
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give him the opening to apologize
gnu38
^