[birthday] my birthday is on october 21 and i have no idea if it's tacky to like, provide people with a way to give me presents

esp. since i don't want physical things this year, i just want cash so i can get things i need/want,

i think it's chill! so long as you don't treat it like an expectation

I think technically, yeah, it's pretty tacky, it's not something Miss Manners would approve of. On the other hand, I think among friends, that kind of thing is fine, we don't all

Have to behave with perfect etiquette all the time. And yeah, as long as it's not accompanied by any pressure.

Just giving an address out for well wishes is pretty benign, and if people want to send you cash, then that's cool.

Well, it is helpful to at least know when your birthday is. So now we know!

(I was hoping to poke you for your address closer to the holidays so I could send you a card but like, this is also good.)