I make it a general point not to judge others' interpretation of a Touhou character honestly. There are a lot of variables involved, and a lot of headcanon too, so the rule for me is so long as nothing directly
the biggest thing is consistency. as long as whatever portrayal you go with remains consistent (barring actual character development), again, you're good!
I happened upon Meiling by accident and things just clicked. I've played several other Toohoos and gone "eh I don't know what I'm doing" "on second thought I don't want this headcanon anymore" and such.
lies. I overthink everything ever. I just don't let it STOP me