what the fuck, yo.
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I have realized that work and my best friend's wedding planning has sucked up most of my RP drive. what the fuck, yo.
what the fuck, yo.
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Aw. 
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Like, I have so much stuff to do in BNW, but, with all the shit I've had to deal with? I'd rather just veg out and watch youtube videos.
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I know the feel. /has done nothing but play Pokemon and laze about since he got home...
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When's the wedding, just out of curiosity?
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August 8th
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She got engaged in December and only just started planning in April.
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. . . isn't that something she should've started planning earlier?
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Or am I off-base when it comes to wedding planning...
Or am I off-base when it comes to wedding planning...
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to be fair, weddings can be planned in less time if everything's been settled quickly and efficiently.
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... quickly and efficiently being the keywords
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. . . but I take it your friend's not that kind of person, judging from the Plurks thus far. 
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When the bride's input on the bridesmaids dress is, "As long as you wear a dress, I'm okay with it!" it's very difficult to get everything done in a short amount of time
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And when a bride keeps playing with the ideas of changing what the colors are, that throws a wrench in things
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. . . so you're foreseeing this blowing up in her face, more or less.
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No. I'm foreseeing that if she keeps up this attitude, I'm going to put my fucking foot down (again) and get her to make a fucking decision because it's not about what we want, it's about what SHE wants.
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/breaaaaaaaaaaaaathe
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You can do it!
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I'm so sorry you're having a bad experience with that
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Does she have a venue yet? Maybe looking at that and using that for color inspirations?
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Or have her look at inspiration boards
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She's got the venue
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Then make her pick one or two with a general color theme
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She actually does have a general color theme! It was silver and "hunter green"
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But yeah, typically you need time to plan these...
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(I started planning as soon as I was engaged, that April before)
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(So I had a little over a year, and I still didn't feel like I had enough time, so I'm just)
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You have the patience of a saint
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and then she started going with, "OH HEY. MY 'BOUQUET' IS JUST GOING TO BE THE WHALE FROM ONE PIECE. MAYBE WE SHOULD HAVE OUR DRESSES BE BLUE INSTEAD'
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and then 'OH. THE BOYS ARE WEARING KHAKI COLORS. MAYBE WE SHOULD CHANGE OUR COLORS TO MATCH THEM'
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So basically she's kid in candy store-ing
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pretty much
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Okay, this is what you do
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Deadlines
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Go drill sargent on her
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Say "faff about how you please until x day"
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"What you decide on on x day is not negotiable for change:
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Because she really, REALLY needs to settle on colors
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Because flowers, invitations, cake
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And other decorations
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DO NOT GET ME STARTED ON THE INVITES AND FLOWERS.
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Does she have save the dates squared away?
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Yeah.
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Okay
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Did she go with a theme for those?
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August 8th, at 6:00pm.
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Color-wise?
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Cause if so, tell her she's sticking to that
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w-well....
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the invite...
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...
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her invites aren't the typical nice paper invites most weddings have.
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which, is her perogative.
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I spelt that wrong, whatever
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Then yeah, I would say
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May 31st
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her last day
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Even that is cutting it freakishly close
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Basically, it's time for tough love
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it's a problem when the first invite looks like a flyer you would use to ask people to a high school freshman luau instead of a wedding.
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Brides that force their bridesmaids to do that suck, and I am so SO SORRY
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which kind of makes sense because the wedding is on a beach
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but at the same time
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That's her choice, you have to respect it for however crazy it is
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Brides be crazy sometimes
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I AM NOTICING.
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Well, thankfully
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(I'm weird in that I want to get into wedding planning so like)
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(I'VE SEEN THIS)
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I managed to slip in a better invite by means of my fabulous roomie
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and by better I mean IT'S NOT AN EYE SORE WITH DARK TEXT AND WHITE TEXT BORDERS
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/nodnod
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Oof
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But yeah, generally my advice to you is set some very real dates for her
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That she has to be done waffling and make a decision
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So calls can be made
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And money can be spent
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Do you guys have a list of things that need to be done/phone numbers of various vendors?
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Well, I pretty much laid into her those rules. No dates, obviously
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I don't have the numbers yet.
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Sje
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They've already got the catering done
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They've got catering and the venue and the guy doing the ceremony
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and her dress.
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Okay good, they do have an officiant
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That was my next question xD
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(People do forget that)
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So then big things are photographer, flowers, cake (if that's not with the catering)
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She's got the cake taken care of?
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Okay
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She had to, cause she has a gluten allergy
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Music?
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She said she had that squared away
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Not sure what the reception is looking like
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Okay
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Transportation to venue for wedding party and from for bride and groom?
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You guys doing your own hair and makeup?
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She's doing that thing where, "LET'S ALL CHOOSE A PLACE THAT YOU ALL WILL LIKE" and I'm all, "It doesn't work that way honey."
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Nope
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Tell her either you all go together, or do it yourselves (as in do your own hair/makeup)
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There can be a bit of "do what's comfortable" in there
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Like
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And then they balked when they realized pro make up and hair costs almost 200
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With my girls, I let them choose a style of dress, so long as it was a certain length
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Yeah, it does
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Uuuuuusually that's covered by the bride
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Or should be
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Well, we had a pow wow and we talked about how things would be paid for
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so, who is paying for what is already out on the table
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I would say, depending on how formal a wedding it is
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And depending on if any of the bridesmaids are skilled with a curling iron and an eyelash curler
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You can do a lot of that on your own on the cheap
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None of them are....
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(That's what we did)
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ahaha okay never mind
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yeah...
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sigh
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Friends who are?
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I don't know, honestly.
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Might be something to think about
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I'd have to ask her.
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Yeah, it is.
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Anyway
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I would say
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/puts that suggesting away
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*suggestion
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Biggest things to focus on right now
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Colors by x day (suggesting May 31st at the very latest, but if you can pin her down sooner, great)
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Florist
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They usually want about 6-8 weeks lead time
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One of her reasons for not wanting a bouquet is because the branches might hurt someone.
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Are you guys doing any flowers for the ceremony?
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I don't know.
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boutonnieres for the guys?
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Something else to figure out
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Oh, something else too, that might help depending on the circumstance
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Mother of the Bride is your best fiend
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*friend
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Mmmmmm....
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no she isn't.
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Okay
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Never mind, forget I said that then
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It's fine. XD Most of the time it's true.
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But generally speaking, all things considered, you do sound like you've got a lot of things under control
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The big things are basically done
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Crazy enough.
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It's funny like that
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You freak out because oh my God there's so much to do what am I missing it's probably a million things
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But when you sit down and make a list
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I had to pretty much fight with her on the fact that she and the wedding party would not be able to get to venue, decorate and then get back to the hotel to change and get ready in time for the wedding.
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A lot of times you realize it's not
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Does she have a few family members or friends that can help with set-up/tear-down?
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I'm in charge of getting the people together.
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I've already got a few.
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Also
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The groomsmen
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Don't have shit to do outside of putting on suits xD
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Make the guys do it
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YEAH I KNOW
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(That's what I did)
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I was gonna tell her make the groomsmen do shit
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OH RIGHT
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Photographer
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Sorry to change gears
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I think she has one?
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Okay
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Back on topic
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But yeah
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The thing is
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Groomsmen = free slave labor
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Trufax
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the wedding is on a beach and the closest places to stay are beach houses that are super expensive to rent and it's usually for a week.
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The closest hotel that she could find? 20-30 minutes away.
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That's not terrible
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True
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Truth be told
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but
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she originally wanted the whole wedding party to decorate at around 11am.
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Which would take at least an hour or so cause the room is pretty large and she wants a LOT of tulle.
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Protip
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Get your hair done before that
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Decorate
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Makeup
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Touch up hairspray
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The hairspray will help keep the hair in place but will also help the makeup
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Sounds doable.
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I honestly would just hate to get hair done when we'll be doing stuff inside and out... and texas is hot as balls in august/
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You mentioned you were decorating indoors, right?
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Air conditioning?
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It wouldn't be texas without AC. 8D
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There you go xD
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Tell them to crank that shit
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XDDDDD
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Well, I pretty much got my way and there's a group that'll be doing the decorations/
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Good!
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So, the bride and bridesmaids will be off getting all ready
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See, you'll get this to work
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Oh, I know I will.
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Come hell, high water, or seemingly difficult bride
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I just need to rant because STOP MAKING THIS DIFFICULT IT'S NOT ROCKET SCIENCE.
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Oh, keep this advice in your arsenal
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Make sure that you, your bride, and your other bridesmaids eat and drink water
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That is the biggest thing that is forgotten
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And trust me
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Between the ceremony and reception, meeting and thanking a bajillion people
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Taking pictures
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Making speeches
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It's easy for the bride and groom to forget to/not get a chance to eat
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And with it being so blisteringly hot, definitely make sure you all stay hydrated
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oh god the speech 
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Oh no are you the maid of honor
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yes.
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Oh
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This all makes sense now
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YEP
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They aren't too bad!
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It's okay!
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Best way to approach it is to just tell some stories about the bride and groom
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I'm just going to get so emotional and everytime I think about I start to tear up. 
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I've known her since 5th grade.
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:<
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We're the epitome of 'childhood friends'
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you can do it!
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Also wow it is 2am I need to take a sleep aid and conk out
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GOOD NIGHT
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But I hope I was able to help?
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THANK YOU FOR LETTING ME WORD VOMIT
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Oh no, it's fine!
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AND WORD VOMITING ADVICE TO ME
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I actually have a lot of fun helping with this stuff
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I've been asking around for suggestions because lawl
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Like, I am not joking when I say I was planning my wedding the moment I got the ring
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I know too much xD
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I NEED PEOPLE WHO KNOW TOO MUCH
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(Also still dream of the food at our wedding because oh my Christ)
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They're having Mediterranean food
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We had a few different kinds of pastas
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And tons of fresh fruit
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Like
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Huge blackberries
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AND CHAMPAGNE GRAPES OMFG
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(Our caterer also gave us a doggy bag to take home it was so sweet)
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(because again, bride and groom forget to/don't get a chance to eat)
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awww
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that's nice. :3
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We also had plush dragons and old fantasy novels as our center pieces and I should stop gushing
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And go to bed xD
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GO
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