【When I was a teenager I had a friend who was born from surrogacy and she was one of the most messed up people I ever met. She was very kind, but she had been put through so much.】
【 I believe she was carried by one of her adopted lesbian mothers, and then they divorced early in her life and abandoned her. On top of that, her father was a random sperm donor and at the time we were friends, she had gotten to contact and meet him for the first time. 】
【He straight up told her he didn’t want her or want her in his life, that she was just a means for him to make some cash. Just so cruel. I still think of her from time and time and I hope she’s doing alright, but as you can imagine it completely broke her heart.】
「我是透過代孕出生的小孩…但從一開始我就與我的母親沒有連結,這讓我的童年相當不快樂。這就是為何我堅信我們...
【我的個人經歷帶給我的結論是,代孕是一種殘忍且不道德的行為,它會造成終生的傷害。
在我20來歲時我成為了一個母親,這讓我更堅定我的結論。我相信母親與嬰兒之間的羈絆是絕對不可以被破壞的。
一些心理學家探到被領養的小孩在離開其生母所受到的心理創傷,他們將這種情感上和身體上的撕裂感稱做「原始創傷」。我相信對於透過代孕出生的小孩而言這也是真的:這是一種非常痛苦的經驗,它切斷了生下小孩的母親跟其孩子之間天生的連結。
你或許可以理解我有多麼重視自己孩子的出生,我希望所有的小孩都能在家裡出生(雖然我是在醫院生下女兒的),我希望他們能像自然界設計的一樣,能夠馬上被我抱在懷裡。】
在意外發生不久後,她聯絡了代孕機構。她當時顯然非常傷心,甚至沒有告訴她丈夫。我認為她根本就不應該成為合適的代理孕母。但由於代孕服務牽涉到了鉅額的金錢,代理孕母的心理狀況很容易就被忽略了。】
【我越來越清楚,我必須用我自身的經驗去幫助其他人。去年我在抖音上發表了一個影片,並開始參與呼籲廢除代孕的社會運動。最後,我在捷克議會舉辦的代孕問題座談會上講述了我的故事,我的演講被迅速地傳播。
一些女性給我留言,告訴我她們對於代孕的選擇有多麼後悔,對自己被迫放棄的孩子有多麼惋惜。她們的自白讓我熱淚盈框。】
【When I was a teenager I had a friend who was born from surrogacy and she was one of the most messed up people I ever met. She was very kind, but she had been put through so much.】
有些人連自己懷胎十月的小孩都可以拋棄了,連懷胎十月都沒有的拋棄起來只會更沒負擔
留言分享的案例應該是女同志借精生子,小孩是其中一個人懷的。我猜卵子可能是另一個人提供的,所以生的覺得這孩子沒我的血緣、供卵的覺得這孩子不是我生的,分手之後就……
比如說那些全權推給女人的
我就不信這樣會跟爸爸多親
頂多是服從權威或者小孩人太好
AB是女同,B用A的卵子跟別人的精子生了孩子,後來兩人分手後跟外國人F在一起